(Closed) Just got engaged…now what?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@sbottiani: If you and your Fiance are paying for the wedding (or just you) you can tell your family you have “x” number of invites. And they’ll have to figure out who gets and invite and who doesn’t.

You can also make your wedding guest list, run it by them and say we have “x” more seats (or this is all we can accomodate/afford) and see what happens from there.

Post # 4
2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

First off, I would suggest using the wedding planning tools provided on the Knot.  They have a great to-do list sorted by date, and a budgeter that will help you plan your finances. Have you two set a budget yet?  That’s one of the first things you have to do before you start figuring out guest lists.  Then after that find a venue within your budget.  Once you have your venue and the cost per head, then you can match it up with your budget to see how many people you can afford to come.  Sometimes you may find an amazing deal and not have to pay a lot per person so you can invite more people. 

After that, tell your family how many you can invite. Let them know who’s not making the cut. That way there are no surprises later when your third cousins don’t receive an invite.  Your parents may feel that person HAS to be there, so they may then offer to pay. But if they don’t offer, then that person is off the list

Post # 5
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

First congrats on getting engaged!! The first thing FH and I did was set a budget for the entire wedding. Before I started doing anything, we had a budget. And then we divided that into different components of the wedding. We used the rule of *if we haventseen or spoken to them in 5 or more years, they dont get invited. Family or not*. And that helped with the guest list tremendousy. We arent allowing plus ones or children which saves money as well. Its your wedding and if u dont want certain people there, you dont have to invite them. Youll figure it out. Good Luck!

Post # 6
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

Cut the guest list.  That is the first and foremost thing to do when you’re planning on a budget.  I might gently suggest to your parents (IF they’re financially capable) that you may need a little assisstence.  If they offer, great.  If they don’t, you’re gonna have to reduce that guest list so you can afford it.

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