Post # 1
BF and I are going on 10 months since we’ve seen each other. We were planning a visit a lot earlier but it keeps getting pushed back because we just don’t have the money. I think that is what is driving my crankiness right now.
He’s in a foreign country at the moment and he went for business so he’s alone tonight. He said he was looking forward to having some privacy tonight so we could have a long video chat and I was too. He called me an hour and a half ago from a cafe saying that he was having a drink by himself and that he would go back to the hotel soon and call me from there. I guess I don’t understand why he’s spending so much time hanging out at a cafe by himself. If he were with friends that would be a different story and I would certainly want him to hang out for as long as he was having fun. But him being by himself makes me a little paranoid that he’s feeling disconnected and is trying to avoid me. Everything in our relationship is good and all our interactions today have been normal, but I know the distance has been hard on him lately and it’s making me nervous. I miss him so, so much.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Sometimes I go sit at cafes with my laptop and finish up some work. I find it much more relaxing than doing work in my hotel room. I enjoy the atmosphere and I do love people watching.
I think you are just being paranoid. I am sure everything is fine and he is just winding down from a busy day! 🙂
Post # 4
He called me as soon as I posted and we talked some about our general sadness and now I feel better!
Post # 5
@worldtraveler: Glad to hear that! I was going to say, it wouldn’t be weird for me to go sit at a cafe and people watch and have a drink. Especially if I”m lonely in another country. And, men tend to not think much about that type of thing where as we tend to be like “omg if he’s not at his room caling me he must be thinking something is wrong omg omg”, but in his mind he probably just wants to relax for a minute. 🙂
Post # 6
Long distance kind of lends itself to that kind of thinking. I know my brain tends to go there, and I’m in the same country as my SO. I don’t know if this would help, but I keep a list of the “reasons I know he loves me.” Just any little thing that he does that makes me feel loved. Then if I’m feeling insecure, I can go back and look at it and it makes me feel better. It sounds like there’s not anything serious going on, so just remind yourself of the positive things and ride out the insecurity. I’m glad you talked and you feel better!