(Closed) Just got in a fight without saying a word….

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 62
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657 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Nona99:  Seriously this completely made my Friday! I just about busted out laughing in the middle of a presentation at work lol! I wish I could be so clever to find/send appropriate pictures in response to snarky texts like that! It certainly would save me from getting into a war of words…

Thanks for the laugh!! Hoe things settle some between you two…

Post # 63
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1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your posts make my days so much happier.

Post # 64
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4282 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Genius!

Post # 65
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525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nona99:  Don’t talk about her man even though according to her he doesn’t help her raise her child or do anything for her!  And she doesn’t use her son to manipulate people, even though right before that she said that you’ll never see her son again unless you do something for her (take her seriously).

Some people just love to cause drama and start fights.  Love your answers though!  I hate having to put up with crazy, fight starting relatives!

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@Nona99:  I really admire that you don’t feed into her and make things worse. I would have a hard time not making comments, even though I know in my head that it would be the best decision. Sometimes people have already decided how an exchange is going to go before you’ve even spoken, so there’s no sense engaging in it.

Good for you. You sound like a great mom to her (based on some of your other posts) and she sounds a bit ungrateful for your efforts!

Post # 68
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3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

BAHAHA this is why we love you. 

Post # 69
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:   You’re a genius. 🙂  Thank you for not letting her manipulate you! 

If she didn’t get a laugh out of that she’s a sad sack.  I know all you’ve done for her and this was the best response to her current childishness.  I have a feeling that because she knows you, and knows how much you LOVE her, she will come around, eventually, with many apologies and a conciliatory attitude.  (When she dumps drunkard dude).

In the meantime, dear one, please don’t let it hurt – because I know you and I know it stings.  Hang in there; I promise she’s on her way back to you.  You are an amazing mother.

((HUGS))

Post # 71
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:  You’re doing great.  She can’t expect to criticize her dad to you and get away with it.  Your marriage has to come first, and it’s sad to say that because there shouldn’t even have to be an issue.

I’m a step-mom, too, of a delightful young man whom I love dearly.  And, of course, my husband is step-dad to my son.  We talk all the time how lucky we are to have these two kids, they’re amazing and such wonderful people.  It could be different and we’re so aware of that.

My ex had a daughter, and while I deeply wanted to be a loving stepmother to her, and tried every way in my power to bond with her, she simply would. not. let. me.  She was the definition of the most bratty, spoiled, rude and selfish kid I’ve come across.  It was awful and I don’t miss that drama one bit.

I feel for you!

Post # 72
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Busy bee

Oh boo hoo.  I think its hilarious and sends the great message that shes starting unnecessary drama and you’re not going to play into it.  If she has a child then she should stop acting like one

 

Post # 73
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Nona99:  Very well played and good for you. 

Although I would be tempted to ask how Mr. 99’s family “heard” you say terrible things about SD when you don’t talk to them…

Good luck. 

Post # 74
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper

Those are funny, but I can see why she would be offended that you responded that way.

I have no idea if her concerns were valid… let’s just assume that they were completely invalid… she would still have a right to be upset that you responded to her raising the issue like this. I would suggest an apology for responding this way (not necessarily for whatever her original issue is), taking responsibility for it not being mature, and then to make up for it, I would specifically ask her if we could please talk about the issue that’s upsetting her, over coffee or whatever, no more sacrastic jokes, I promise.

What I do is try to make the jokes to my Fiance or best friend instead of the person causing me to have those thoughts, because unless I feel the person is a complete stranger to me or worse, I wouldn’t want to be responsible for making a bad situation worse.

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nona99:  I LOVE THIS!!! Bahahahaha

 

Such a great tactic for dealing with difficult people. I can’t wait to try this 🙂

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nona99– THIS JUST MADE MY DAY! I seriously laughed my ass off it was wonderful. I frickin love it!

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