(Closed) just got in an argument…

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

First off I wouldn’t let him run me out of my own bed. I would go crawl in the bed and go to sleep. When morning comes tell him he is an adult so you two should be able to have an adult conversation and work it out. Sorry hun! 🙁

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Sleep it off and talk in the morning if you can. They say it’s not good to go to bed angry, but when it’s close to bed time, people can be really crancky and say things that they don’t want to say.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Aww honey! Big hugs to you.  My Darling Husband never lets me huff and puff, no matter how bad our argument.  The best advice we ever got from his father on our wedding day was this: “Never go to bed angry. Always remember, no matter how hard it gets, to say ‘i love you’.”

My guess is that, if he’s anything like me, he’s in there hoping you’ll go in and try to talk?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: +1.

Sorry OP! That must be extremely frustrating. I would not sleep in the spare bedroom though. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Monkey786:  Awe OP it happens. I would go into the room and go to bed next to him. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m like that too, and recently we had an argument for the stupidest reason. I don’t remember the reason, that’s how stupid it ws. I went to bed angry and voila, I wasn’t angry when I woke up. If it was something that can wait until tomorow, just wait, cool off and talk in the morning. 

No one can say, that our SO would never do something like that because we can only talk for ourselves. We can not say what other people will or will not do, we can only hope and expect. 

I’m sure you two will work it out in the morning. 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@pengoala:  This is us %100. We NEVER go to bed angry.

To the OP though it sounds like he already did? OR Maybe he is waiting on you?

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Darling Husband and I don’t really fight either but sometimes were just in bad moods and it all comes apart. For some reason this usually happens when one of us is extremely tired and we’ll just go to sleep without the other half. Honestly we both talked about it and agreed when that does happen which has been something like 3 times in the past 3 years were just laying there waiting for the other one to come to bed and hope we initiate cuddles. Were both super stubborn but once I wrap my arms around him or he wraps his arms around me were fine. It’s not he won or I won it’s just over and we  fall asleep all warm and fuzzy. He could be waiting for you to just come in and lay down. I think most people reach a point in the argument where they just want to forget it and go to bed so maybe that had nothing to do with trying to hurt or confuse you he just wanted to turn it off for the night.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

 Sweet.Sugar.Rose:  (Reply # 2)  —> THIS

End of day disagreements / tiffs / arguments / fights are the worst…

And they do happen

As NICE as it sounds to never go to bed angry… it can and does happen to most couples from time to time

Chances are he’s fallen asleep (can you see light under the door?)

I not a big one to say “make a point” and sleep on the couch…

I’d say go to bed (it is your bed too), and then discuss it when you are both rested.

Good Luck (( HUGS ))

 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I’m one of those people who just prefers to be left alone when I’m upset. Talking something to death just makes me really irriated. If we’re having a dissagreement and I storm off, I just want to be left alone to cool down. That doesn’t mean Darling Husband needs to go sleep in another room, it just means that for the current moment I don’t want him to follow me and pester me.

Darling Husband is someone who likes to “beat a dead horse”. If we talk about something, I feel like it’s been disccussed and done with….so let me be so I can “get over it”. Not him, he wants to talk until he’s blue in the face and that pisses me off.

Let him have his time, and when you’re ready for bed go in there and get in bed. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@amoret11:  +1. Sleeping it off can do wonders. You will probably find that in the morning you have more patience to discuss the issues and they may not even seem so important anymore.

IMO going to bed angry is considerably less damaging to the relationship than staying up all night fighting and not making any progress because you’re both tired and angry.

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