(Closed) Just got off phone with my ex- what\'s wrong with him/us?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

It seems like he has a ton of issues and hasnt dealt with them at all. It sucks that he wont go to therapy because it sounds like it could really benefit him.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

zebra10:  Sorry bee, but what is wrong with YOU?  Why do you still talk to him?  You said he “dumped you for good” but you are still trying to get him back?  You complained about him from your 2nd date – RED FLAG, I don’t understand why you persued the relationship at all.  

Post # 4
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Newbee

It sounds like this relationship was caused you a great deal of heartbreak and stress over the past two years. If that’s what you are looking for, then keep doing what you’re doing. If not, you need to break things off. There are guys out there who are warm, emotionally stable, and who are ready to offer you the commitment you appear to be looking for. Good luck.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The relationship is over and it’s time to cut contact with him.  The relationship you describe here sounds insanely unhealthy.  It sounds like he is the kind who brings everyone down, and who really wants that kind of person in their life?  You weren’t a priority for him ever…no one deserves that from a SO.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

zebra10:  Why did you call him? He’s always been this way because this is the way he is. This is who he is. Why do you think he’s going to change? He’s not. If you call him, this is what you’re in for. You know this. So if you keep contacting him, it’s either because you feel like you deserve to be used and treated like shit, OR he’s a project to you and you want to fix him. Those are the only reasons. So if you keep contacting him, please find a professional who can help you figure out which of these reasons applies to you and can help fix that in you. You are the only person you can change.

  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  Daisy_Mae.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

zebra10: agree with the what is wrong with YOU sentiment. Also, is it safe to assume the guy who threw up after dumping you was not, in fact, throwing up because he was so distraught about losing you? Did he ever call?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Examine your past to figure out why it is important for you to win over someone who is emotionally unavailable to you.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Here we go again!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

carolinabelle:  I thought this whole thing sounded familiar…

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Nope, I am not getting sucked into this again.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. It sounds like he showed you right away, and you felt the relationship wasn’t right, but you chose to ignore those things. Now you’re rid of this jerk: CELEBRATE! No more phone calls! Don’t try to figure him out or fix him, because it’s not going to happen. And trust your instincts about the next guy. 

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