Post # 1
I know I have posted about this under another thread to other people but I just have to vent. I am only 22 years old and graduated with an Associates and Bachelors degree this year, which I think is a wonderful accomplishment. I did a semester long internship and after graduation they offered me a job. It was not a big high powered job it was basically helping in an office but they offered me fairly good pay. I was also familiar with the office and felt comfortable there so I accepted. I was a part of the HR department and then one day they “rearranged” the company eliminated several positions in HR and moved those people to other positions and even eliminated some people’s jobs completely. They offered me a new position in I which I would be doing 4 people’s jobs that had been eliminated in the payroll department for half of the money they were making. I did not want to take the new position so I gave my two weeks. I enjoyed working there but after the company rearranged it just was not the same. I had about 3 months off, but now I have another full time office job. Recently, at Thanksgiving someone in my family harassed me about finding a “career” and it basically telling me that it was ridiculous at 22 I don’t know what kind of job is my dream job. She put me on the spot in front of everyone at my grandparents’ home on Thanksgiving asking me several questions similar to a job interview. She had me so flustered I couldn’t even answer her. It was completely embarrassing to me. It felt as if she was trying to say that I went to college for nothing. She was drilling me on why I got the degree I did and I told her that I do not have to look for a job in my specific field that I received my degree in. For example, I know several people who went to school for education but they are not a teacher they have good jobs in another field. My family member made me feel so inadequate and like what I had accomplished just wasn’t good enough. She made me feel like I am not doing something right. She has a cooperate career and has a nanny 50 hours a week for her children, which works for her. I have no desire to have a career like that. She has told me before she wants me to have high powered career like her, but that’s not appealing to me. My fiancé and I are on the same page about me staying home when we have kids or working somewhere part time which would I would like. I feel like I am very young and I do not know what type of job I want, but is that crime? Am I doing something wrong?
Post # 2
Tell her sweetly to go suck it. Good lord.
Are you happy with the job you have? Can it support your lifestyle? If yes, then you are perfectly fine. There is nothing wrong with a flexible office job. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be a corporate badass. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have a job where you can be a full or partial Stay-At-Home Mom.
You do what makes you happy, healthy and safe. You are only 22. You’ll find your niche.
She sounds like someone I’d enjoy arguing with, just to take her down a couple notches, lol.
Post # 3
I’m 27, and I’m just now starting to get my career situation figured out! I’m still not 100% what my “dream job” is. Don’t take what was said to you to heart–the job market is extremely tough right now, especially for recent grads. You have plenty of time to figure it out. As long as you’re able to support yourself in the meantime, you’ll be fine.
Post # 4
Not everyone is made out for a career job and certainly not everyone wants one. You’re only 22, you have plenty of time to figure out what job you’d like to have and no, it doesn’t have to have anything to do with your degree. I have a degree in IT and I’m an admin assistant and I love my job.
Maybe she just wants to make you as miserable as she probably is so she can feel better about her own situation!
Post # 5
I don’t know. While I don’t agree with your relative’s delivery, I can see where she is coming from. Like, why would you go to college if you have no intent to use your degree? College is expensive and even if you didn’t have to pay for it, someone did, so to not use your degree for anything is a waste of someone’s money. It’s just a shame that a lot of people these days are just getting college degrees in useless subjects (not saying you did) for the hell of it and then getting jobs where they never even needed a college degree.
With that being said, it is your life, and you can figure out what you want to do with it as you please. This family member has nothing to do with your career and doesn’t have any right to harass you about it. Now, if your parents paid for you to go to school, I would say that they would have more of a right to speak up about it, but that is clearly not the case with this relative.
Post # 6
People only get to make you feel inadequate if you allow it.
The immediate response before she goes on and on is “I am doing just fine, thank you.”
Post # 7
I feel like I could have almost written your post! I’m also 22, just graduated college and am working on landing a basic office job to help pay the bills and keep me busy for the next year or two. I have never had a career goal and have absolutely no desire to have one, my goal is to be a stay at home mom and now as a military spouse my career is even less important to me. I also have one of THOSE family members who had the big high powered corporate career and keeps trying to push me into her footsteps (she has no children, got married at 50 and retired at 55). Trust me, I understand where you’re coming from completely and have had many of those same awkward conversations at family gatherings. What I’ve learned is to say that I’m trying to find a good fit in a job for now and to see where it takes me until it’s time to stay home with kids. Hopefully, it’s something that I could pick back up part-time in 20 years (IF I want to) which you can’t really do with a big corporate career. After that, I change the conversation or politely tell her that my goals are just different than hers and we want different things in life.
I understand the point people make that we’re ‘wasting’ our degrees but I don’t think it’s a waste at all. I found my husband, learned a lot and gained enough experiance in class to be qualified for these office positions. If nothing else, that degree is a checkmark on an application to get me a little higher salary.
In the end it’s all a matter of perspective and you have to do what makes you happy, whether thats staying home with kids or climbing the corporate ladder is totally up to you!
Post # 8
I sent you a PM yesterday! It goes along with this.
Post # 9
She needs to F off. Most people are thrilled they can get ANY full time job just out of college. No one just waltzes into their dream job or even knows what that is when they start out.
Post # 10
I don’t think you should quit your job immediately and find a “career” job. But I think it’s very important to plan your future, give yourself lots of options, and constantly re-evaluate your goals.
It is so, so, so easy to graduate college and get stuck in a certain role. Then, a couple of years later, you realize you don’t really like where you are but it’s difficult to change directions because all your experience is in one role. It happens all the time to people. A plan B is also important. You might want to be a Stay-At-Home Mom now, but you might change your mind in the future or circumstances might change. Whatever you decide to do, it’s so important to continually ask “Am I happy with where my life is taking me?”