(Closed) Just had my bridal shower and need etiquette advice

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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clattarulo626:  Unfortunately, the feelings you have in regard to the whole “gift receipt” debacle will not necessarily mirror those of others. I.e. (and I think you get it now) you may not be sensitive to the fact that one of your friends or family members asked you for a gift receipt after you gifted them with something they admittedly could not use. However, Grandma Jeane just can’t FATHOM as to why you’d want the gift receipt for the very expensive Baccarat crystal bud vase she went out of her way to find for you! She can’t believe you’d even excercise such poor decorum! – Okay, I know that’s probably a bit dramatic, but I just wanted to provide you with one more potential scenario.

It’s definitely a generational thing (as well as an archaic etiquette thing) and I think, apart from the snarky and rude comments, some bees did offer some good advice. I think you know what to do now and a lot of the chide remarks were unnecessary.

Figure out a way to return the gifts without giving word to the gift giver (if you must return them). It’ll just avoid possible hurt feelings and poor politesse bashing.

Off topic, but I’m naturally a good speller and pretty good at grammar… I still mess up my posts all the time on here.

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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clattarulo626:  While finding a way to return the items without the gift-giver knowing may be the way to go, I’d just have some caution with this. If it’s from your mom’s cousin who lives across the country, go for it. If it’s an oblivious Aunt who visits frequently but rarely pays attention to detail, go for it. But watch out for that grandmother who will come to your home and insist you use the crystal wine glasses she gave you. It may be more awkward to have to say “Oh, by the way…. we took those back to the store and bought a vacuum instead”. Granny might blow a fuse (at least I know my grandma would’ve! lol).

Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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clattarulo626:  Just saw that you’re only a couple towns over from me! We are getting married in Whitehouse!

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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ChrissyMary9515:  Yeah, I kinda figured my post expressed “use discretion” if one MUST return the gifts, but I guess I should’ve been even more specific, lol.

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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kmark2688:  Oh I didn’t mean that towards your post. I was just emphasizing the point lol. Your post actually did point out that “Grandma Jeane” may not be too happy haha. I meant to OP  a lot of the advice was “find the store and return them or sell them online”. Which are great options! But just choose wisely which gifts to do that for

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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clattarulo626:  I wish!! Lol, our ceremony is in Whitehouse. Our reception is actually in Lopatcong at a golf course called Architect’s. I heard your venue is GORGEOUS though, congrats to you too!

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