Post # 1
So I had my bridal shower yesterday (an amazing day by the way!). I was talking with my friend who’s husband happens to be out Bridesmaid or Best Man. Them and their 3 kids (16, 18 and 18) were invited to the wedding because we know them and we enjoy their company.
She told me yesterday that her kids were fighting over the invite. They were trying to decided who would go and who would not so the other can bring a guest.
Ummm NO!!! I sent her an e-mail this morning and was trying to be nice about it….can you bee’s tell me if this was ok wording to send to her…mind you she is very easy to offend, piss off or make really happy. (this is just part of the e-mail, I also told her how wonderful it was to have her there yesterday and thanked her for the great and amusing gift)
This is what I put:
“I have something else, and at the risk of sounding like a bridezilla, but I just have to mention it. I know it is amusing to watch the kids fight over the invitation 🙂 , but I have to ask that you please don’t let them fight over who gets to bring a guest. The invite was for your family because we want you guys there, not their friends. We had to cut out a lot of family and friends from our lists to keep to our venues around 100 limit. If the kids don’t want to come, that’s all fine and dandy, but we could really use those spots for people we know and care about and not just some random people we don’t know. Also there is going to be a lot of alky there and we don’t need the liability with more underagers there than we invited”
So what do you Bees think. Is this ok wording? Not like it matters now, I already sent the e-mail. I guess I just need some other ‘wedding’ people to tell me it was an ok thing to send?
Post # 3
I think it’s fine. I bet she’ll understand!
Post # 4
I think it’s fine too– I hope she understands.
It’s not a “bring all the random people you can find” sort of event. It’s a “we invited you because we love/ care about you” sort of event.
I should think that’s fairly obvious but some people don’t get it. I hope she is the type that does get it.
Post # 5
I would drop everything starting with, “And not just some random people we don’t know.” I think it’s unnecessary with what you said beforehand!
Post # 6
I would shorten it a bit and take out a few phrases that could be taken the wrong way. I wouldn’t mention “at the risk of sounding like a bridezilla” because you’re totally not! This wording sounds less annoyed to me 🙂
One other thing I wanted to mention. I know it is amusing to watch the kids fight over the invitation 🙂 , but I have to ask that none of them bring a guest, please. We invited your family because we want you guys there, but if one of you can’t make it, we’d rather not have people we don’t know in their place. We had to cut out a lot of family and friends from our lists to keep to our venues around 100 limit. We could really use those spots for people we know and care about!
Post # 7
Leave out ‘random people’ and spell out alcohol. not (alky)
Post # 8
Really like “rolling berry” suggestion! Well worded.
Post # 9
Ok so she got the e-mail and it was well accepted. I couldn’t change anything as I had already sent the e-mail when I posted this.
She wrote back to me and said that they completely understand, but that it’s the kids that don’t know the etiquette of a wedding invite. They will not be bringing any guests with them, and at this point they are debating bringing the kids so they can have a whole weekend awway (which is VERY rare for them).
Thanks Bees for all the suggestions. I’m happy she understood.