Post # 1
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812 posts
Busy bee
Hi everyone! So ive been engaged since February 2012 and almost immediately started looking for my dress. I’m getting married in July 2013 and still haven’t found the dress. Everyone at work and in my family keeps asking and asking but I honestly just have not found anything that really wowed me or made me feel amazing like everyone describes. I’m not usually a picky person, definitely not diva or bridezilla ish and every single decision has gone so smoothly but the dress has me stumped. Ive probably tried on 30 different dresses 🙁 Now I feel embarrassed going into boutiques and I feel badly when the store clerks spend 2 hours with me and I end up with nothing! any one else feel this way? Is it really an overwhelming feelin when you find “the one”?
Post # 3
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11265 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
are you just trying on dresses that you think will look good? have you tried anything different on? sometimes you think you know what you want but you may be surprised if you expand and open your options.
i tried on a bunch of dresses that i thought would look best for my figure and out of the blue i saw a dress that was a bit different and i thought was interesting so i tried it on. i felt so pretty in it. i would never had chosen that gown for me.
don’t worry, you will find it.
also, when you go shopping, make sure that your hair and makeup are done b/c it adds to the whole look.
Post # 4
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58 posts
Worker bee
I tried on dresses I believed that I would want to wear and ended up with something completely different. I wanted an a-line ball gown. (ended up with: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/first-post-got-my-dress
Something completely different!! and FYI – I didn’t have “that” moment either. I really love my dress, and I feel that it’s beautiful, but I still get the urge to keep looking. You may be more like me, and many other brides, who just don’t have that over the top moment where you cry and feel like you’ve found your soul mate 😉 I would just start trying random dresses on!
Post # 5
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1026 posts
Bumble bee
Everyone is different in finding the dress- if you look around you’ll see a lot of bees (and other brides in real life) don’t have that tearful crazy moment when they find a dress they want. I’d say definitly think outside the box- ask the consultant to pull something for you, and try it even if you think you wont like it. Also I found it a lot easier to “fall in love” with a gown on my second appointment. I think a lot of it was because I took the time to do my hair and makeup before I went, took my veil (a family heirloom) with me, and a small bouquet of fake flowers. I found that on its own the dress was just a dress- I needed that more complete look to get into the wedding spirit and pick a dress.
Post # 6
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812 posts
Busy bee
Thanks for the advice 🙂 it definitely feels better coming from brides to be/past brides. The search continues!
Post # 7
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10450 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
You’ve only tried 30? I must have tried over 50 before I settled. And I didn’t even quite find the perfect dress, I ended up customizing something. It’s tough! Are there stores you have not been to yet? That will be much less awkward that going back to ones you have been to (for me anyway).