(Closed) Just hoping this doesn't happen… (rant)

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
914 posts
Busy bee

I don’t blame you. I’m sorry for your loss and can understand it would be strange to have this lady friend there with your dad. You’re within your right to say no. It’s your wedding and you need to feel comfortable. I imagine you are also still grieving. I think your dad will understand. You’re not being a bridezilla. Just relax and don’t stress over it. If it does come up just say you hope to meet her at some point but you don’t feel your wedding is the right time.

Post # 3
8729 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Normally I would say to invite your dad’s lady friend but he said to extend the spot to another friend. Given that you are having such a small wedding I think he would understand.

But another thing to think about is that whilst it will be a hard for you, it will also be a very hard day for your father. This is his daughters wedding, the one he thought he would attend with his wife. He might need the extra support of a special loved one to get through it.

I am sorry for your loss and I hope it all works out.

Post # 4
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

Completely agree with PP 100%. I was in a similar position for my wedding, the only difference being my mom had passed several years before our wedding. Basically, I told my dad if I could meet her prior to the wedding, I would be okay with her coming. That being said, our wedding was 150+. If we had had an intimate wedding, I would NOT have been okay with someone who essentially means nothing to me being there. Especially because if this is just a fling or nothing serious, why would I want her in wedding photos, etc? It seems so new that how serious could they be at this point ya know?

Post # 5
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

He hasn’t asked yet, and may not want to bring her to the wedding, anyway. Don’t worry about this. If he asks, you can say that you already have finalized the guestlist based on what he had said previously.

Post # 7
709 posts
Busy bee

renwoman:  Thanks for the update & best wishes. 

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