(Closed) Just landed a new job!!! But now I’m worried about FI :(

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No, but we already live together and share finances so it is not a big deal for us. it is more money we have as a couple rather than one making more than the other. In fact neither of us would even think of it that way!

Post # 5
2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, do you share all your $ or keep it separate? Cause if it’s all going to the same pot, who cares? My Darling Husband is thrilled when I get raises, as I am for him. It’s a mutual support, not a competition…

ETA: Didn’t see your update – yes, start celebrating πŸ™‚

Post # 7
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Totally forget the worry!  Things sound great – celebrate!


Post # 8
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance wishes that would happen.  He has said that he would like to be a stay at home dad when we have kids.  But sadly there is probably no way that I will ever be able to make more than him.

Congrats on the job and try to not worry about silly things like that! I’m sure that he loves you and won’t let something stupid like salary get in the way πŸ™‚

Post # 9
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, at this point and time in the economy, I think most people are just happy to have good paying jobs and not have to have so many financial worries.  That’s my outlook on it.

Congratulations! Enjoy your weekend by celebrating.

Post # 11
748 posts
Busy bee

CONGRATS!!! That’s awesome news! I got a similar e-mail (not phone call) a week ago and I was jumping up and down I was so happy! lol. We’re in the same situation. It doesn’t bother him at all (he’s very mature with things like that) but it does bother me because I like being taken care of πŸ™‚ but I don’t mind!

On another note, my mom and dad were the same… and although my mom thought it was normal, my dad was not so ok with it and now we can see that he got a bit passive aggressive over time because of it. 

I do believe it has A LOT to do with how you treat him. Make him feel special and important to you and show him how worthy he is through everything else that he does, and he’ll be fine with you making more money. My mom never did that, she would just complain and tell him that he’s no good. Jee, I wonder why he got resentful… wouldn’t have had a clue.

Post # 12
15963 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My husband is feeling a little frustrated right now because he’s working part-time, and I have a full-time job. For us, it’s not as much about the amount of $, just that we’re both contributing. And while he’s certainly contributing now, I know he’d like to be working more hours so that he could contribute even more.

When I got this job, I got offered $4K more a year than I expected, and he was thrilled for me and for us. Because it’s all going to the same place. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
1453 posts
Bumble bee

I make almost twice what my SO does and it doesn’t seem to bother him too much.  I know he wishes he got paid better but I’ve told him as long as we can afford our bills together (when we get married) who the heck cares. 

Post # 15
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Congrats!  And enjoy it.  I make more than my hubby and it has never bothered him in the slightest.  The more I have (he insists our money be separate) the more we get to do, he saw the upside quickly. πŸ™‚  

Post # 16
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think my Fiance would feel like he is not pulling his weight or some other manly thought that isn’t true, but he would be happy for me. I think your Fiance will be proud of you, and really, it is noone’s business but the two of you as to who makes more. CONGRATS!! That is awesome that they offered you more than you were expecting!

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