- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I get married in 2 months and I had asked 3 girls who were close to me to be my bridesmaids. 2 of them are doctors and the other one is in the health profession as well. Anyway I had stipulated at the onset of asking them that I would like them to help contribute to the dresses as here in the Uk a dress is an excess of £150. I am paying for the wedding. I had said to the girls we could all have a say in the dress and the most they would contribute was half although I was willing to pay up to 70% per dress as long as they picked something reasonable. This was initially met with “yeah – thats cool” and I thought all was well.
When it came to arranging a Saturday to try some dresses that I had picked which were reasonable all but one turned up and the offending bridesmaide OBM made some excuse that she could not make it. I made arrangements for her to try the dress in her town where she lives but she did not make any effort to go and try it on. I asked her for her measurements and she took ages to get them back to me. I then went and ordered the other girl’s dresses and she still had not sent me her measurements. I waited 2 weeks and then called her up to say it was too late to get her order and that it was best that she wasnt part of the wedding party. She then said she might have problems with attending the wedding as she had difficulty getting time of work – she has had 8 months to do this!!
I let her go only to find out she called my Maid/Matron of Honor andtold her that although she was happy to pay for the dress the issue was with getting time of work but she could come for the reception! Oh I am sooo mad with her she should have been upfront! I am all for the fact that maybe it is not so PC in the Uk to ask for contribution to the dresses but thats why I set it as an open forum and the other girls were just happy to pitch in. As it transpired I got a great deal and so now can pay for all the dresses which I have told the OBM – who told the OBM and she went quiet
At this rate I am not sure I want her at the wedding now and clearly dont need people like that in my circle. Maybe I am being unreasonable in my demands for the UK but I didnt realise some people are misers. Incidentally she got engaged to a wealthy man and she is saying she is not looking forward to the wedding because its “expensive”. Oh Im just having a rant.
What do you all think?