(Closed) Just Made My Photo List…and people are mad!!

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He needs 4 hours to take that short list of photos?  I would expect a list like that to take no more than 30 minutes.

In my family at least, it’s expected to take some formal pictures with the grandparents.  They’re the root of the family tree, so to speak, and we want to commemmorate the day that a new branch was added (i.e. your wedding).

Maybe you can suggest one really big family picture at the end of your list?  That way no one can complain that they didn’t get in any of your formals.  🙂

Post # 5
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That’s pretty much the “formal” photo list I had … I really didn’t want endless posing in the August heat! Fortunately, I didn’t have people agitating for more … I had a small guest list and my photog got lots of great candid pictures of everybody at the reception, which were more fun anyway.

Keep to your decision. You don’t need the added stress. People are always b*tching and moaning about something. If it’s not this, it’ll probably be something else. If they keep on at you, just say you don’t choose to spend your entire wedding day posing for photographs.

Post # 6
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We just did immediate family as well.  It’s better to offend everyone by asking them to leave, then to offend some by letting others stay.

Our photographer read the list of people that were to stay for photos, and asked everyone else to leave – she did the dirty work for us.  And she made it about her too.  When there are lots of people there, they dictate time.  They will take flash photos, and mess up her pictures – she wanted only the people in photos.

I would just explain to your family that you don’t want to offend his parents by having your extended family in your photos – it could be hurtful to some.  Then maybe set aside time at the recpetion, or just before to take photos with extended family.

Post # 7
1001 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had a “formal photo list” but it was only distributed to the wedding party.  And then I hid in the church basement until everyone had left, before going up for photos.  People won’t stand around and wait, I promise.  They’ll leave and go to the reception, you’ll take your pictures (the photog should do family ones first so they can leave for the reception), and be on your way.

Four hours seems excessive.  Mine took 2 hours, which included driving to three different locations.

Do extended family members really expect to be in photos?  I’ve been seeing threads like this lately so it must be common, but I would never be like “I HAVE to be in a posed portrait with my cousin!” etc.

Post # 8
2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We didn’t really ask anyone’s opinions about our photo list. Ours was similar to yours, except we did include grandparents because I think those photos will really mean something when they are gone. They are your wedding pictures – you should do what you want! I think our family was relieved to not have to stand around for pictures.

Post # 9
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just explain that any photos that your extended family is wanting, they can arrange with the photographer during the reception.  Stick to your guns about what you want/don’t want and that’s the end of it.

I would consider the 4 hr time frame on those photos though, that is rediculously long for those photos.

Post # 10
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

FOUR hours!?!?!

Family only images listed would take me MAYBE 10-15 min. mainly because of family chaos and distractions.

The bridal party images (you and the bridesmaids, him and the Groomsmen, you and him alone) should take no more than an hour. Having 2 hrs for everything is more than generous and sometimes I run out of things to do with that much time, lol.

Post # 11
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

As others have said, that won’t take you four hours. Not sure why your photographer is saying that. Max, it’ll take you 20-30 mins.

I like mcnetn3’s suggestion. Just say that formal photos will be immediate family only, and if extended family wants photos, you’ll be willing to step out of your reception for 10 minutes between [insert time] to pose with people, and then after that, your family will have an extra 10 minutes for photos they want.

Usually brides and grooms step out of their reception for a few minutes for more family pictures. Budget this in your reception timeline so you know exactly when it will be, and so you won’t miss anything else important (it’s usually done during dancing time because your photog can only get so many pics of people dancing, right?). That should appease everyone, and if not, they’re problem, not yours!

Post # 12
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Keeping the same group of people you have, you may want to add one more…bride, groom, and ushers.  For us this was a beautiful pictures…all their dark tuxes with my white dress!

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