(Closed) just making sure… invite timeline?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think you are late. But perhaps a)she did not do Save The Dates and/or be she has a lot of OOT’ers and want to make sure that everyone has time to arrange travel.

I’m planning to send out SaveTheDates for my August 2010 wedding by this October. And invites by early May of 2010. It’s a good amount earlier than "etiquette" but I want SaveTheDates out before holiday season hits. And I want invites out before summer vacation starts and when I think families will start planning summer vacations. 95% of my guests will be Out of Town as will we!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

No, your friend sent the invitations too early, especially if most of her guests are local.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I would send them about 8 weeks ahead of time, but no more. Things get lost!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

That is definitely WAY to early. She must not be reading up on her wedding etiquette! Definitely don’t follow with another early invitation mailing.

If I were a guest to her wedding, I’d be a little thrown off. She is a little to over eager!!  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

There are many reasons why she may have sent her invites out early (I don’t think it means shes over eager). She may have many Out of Town guests, she may have an earlier deadline to get back to her caterer or other vendor, she may have other plans closer to the date which might make it more difficult for her to send them at the "right time", she  may want to get them out before people plan vacations…. etc.

No worries, send yours out with enough time to get your final head count and you should be fine.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

i am getting married on august 8th 2009 and i am sending my invitations out on may 8th and asking they be returned by july 8th…am i eager?? i don’t care if it seems that way…all of my guest are out of towners and we have a couple of blocks or rooms at the hotel..i want to make sure that our guests can get reservations somewhere…also, it is wedding season you know…in the summer months, as well as summer vacation for kids…i would like to know sooner then later where i am going and what i have to plan for…i think wedding etiquette is more of a suggestion in this instance…do what you want!!  i don’t want to a calling people who don’t rsvp two days or a week before my wedding!  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would be floored to see an August invitation already! Keep to your original timeline.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yep I agree.  Way too early!  I’m sending mine out about 9 weeks before.  I think 8 weeks is the norm!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oohh ouch!  Being called over eager just because u sent ur invites earlier than people would want u to…that’s a little harsh people.  No matter what her reasoning is for sending her invites early, it was her choice.  And if u were one of those people who received an early invitation, be grateful and glad that u got it early.  I think getting the invites earlier than the "norm" is way better than waiting for that invite to come and wondering if that person invited u or not at all.  Geez, we’re all planning or have planned a wedding here, we know how sensitive we get with these kind of criticism. What harm can she possible make by sending out her invites early?  Giving people a heart attack coz she’s on top of her game and totally broke an etiquette rule?

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

People keep hounding me about my invitations, and the wedding is not until July… and we sent out save the dates.  In my crew, eariler is better… but they are not getting their invites until the end of this month because that’s when I’ll be done 😛

I don’t think there is a right time anymore… It depends on your situation.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

People lose invites when you send them that early.  Waaaaaay too early.  I’m getting married July 3 and I haven’t sent mine yet.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Just voicing my opinion, like everyone else. I agree with you, Johnsbride09. Timing is always key.

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