(Closed) Just Married and Feeling a Little…Lazy

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Some of the bees talk about that — post-wedding depression/blue/burnout. Seems to be pretty typical. =) I think you have to kind of force your way past it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Same here! Dissertation? Eh. Workouts? No thanks. So I’ve made no progress on my degree and I’ve gained six pounds in the last month. On the up side, I’ve watch a lot of really bad daytime TV. ;P

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

And if there’s not anything good on TV, well…I’ll watch it anyway!

I’ve actually started learning how to cook and I’m planning a friend’s baby shower, so that’s helping. I’ve found that by getting involved in some more pleasant things, it’s giving me the energy to start working the less pleasant, you know? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009 - University of Michigan Union

You hit the nail on the head!!! Congratulations on the wedding, btw!

I didn’t get "blues" after, but like you said, I have no motivation at all! Our house looks like it was hit by the wedding tornado… while we have put away 80% of the gifts, we haven’t dealt with the boxes that are piling up to the ceiling, and my crafting stuff is everywhere. I started with our office this week, I’m hoping that it will be easier if we do it room by room.

Hopefully it will pass, it is driving me nuts too! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

Linzella…I’m the same way.  I’ve done nothing but eat myself into oblivion, sleep, and read Harry Potter.  I hope going back to work on Monday will get me back in the spirit of real life!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Congrats on your marriage!

I wouldn’t call what I had blues or depression, I was just exhausted. It was more burnout than anything else. I was just so stressed with everything that I just wanted to relax. Of course, when I had the time, I then didn’t know what to do with myself!

It will get better…don’t worry!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I feel so much better now after reading all this! I haven’t done anything at work or home since we got married about a month ago… My productivity went out the window after we got back from our honeymoon. I’m still writing thank-yous every other night but other than that, our house is a wreck, I haven’t been doing much at work  except checking out various unimportant things on the internet, etc. Hopefully this will pass soon, I’m starting to feel a little guilty…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Maybe you need something to get you motivated! Look at your calendar and set a date for 3 or 4 weeks down the road to have a little post-wedding house-warming party, perhaps. Once you have sent the e-vite you will HAVE to get it done, or risk people seeing your place in shambles!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

For those of us that are married, we understand! I got married this past Saturday and I have done nothing but sleep and make photo books for the in laws. I am normally, a very tidy, neat freak and our place is a disaster! I have not worked out in over 2 weeks etc. Hubby and I are enjoying this time to be alone and relax, since we did not have much of that leading up to and the week of the wedding including the day of. It is so exhausting, you really dont know until you fall asleep writing Thank you cards. Just enjoy the down time, its rare for some. I know it is for us!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not married yet, but this means you are human. I say: Embrace your laziness! It surely won’t last forever. It just happens. You’ll probably be back to your productive self by next month.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I feel the same way, but more so that I WANT to clean and organize but then I get home and am not motivated at all.  When I got back to work (I work 9-6pm) I feel like I want to go home and hang out cause its already late, not clean.  But we do have motivation, my parents are coming over Sunday and we need to get the place cleaned!  A good idea my husband had was for us to have a house warming party since its our first place together and that will totally motivate us to clean up the place nice enough for people to come over!  But I like being lazy too 🙂

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