Post # 1
I’m freaking out. I lost my job a while back just before our wedding. But my husband was working full time and salaried and I had a good sized savings so we thought no problem. I’ve applied gone on interviews and am waiting to hear back…
All the while, my husband hit a bump in the road at work. There was stuff they were making him do that the others didn’t have to do (more like more than his fair share… to the point he had a hard time keeping up every so often). He expressed his concern to them, (told me the story completely (as I use to be a manager I know it was in a professional manager…)) they told him to go home and think about whether he wanted the job. He went back told them he’d do whatever they needed him to. They fired him.
We’ve almost been married a month… how does something like this happen? What will we do?
Post # 3
That is so awful! I’m sorry you are going through this.
My husband was unemployed when he moved to my city as he’d just graduated college – I didn’t have a job either still being in school and all, and we were living super cheap on my savings. We literally had $20 and pure desperation in the bank when he finally got one. So my only advice would be for him to start applying for jobs IMMEDIATELY – as you know from job hunting you can put in a million apps before you get a successful interview. What does he do? Can he consider doing a temp job (even Walmart will pay the bills) until he can get back on track?
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear about this. 🙁 I don’t have practical advice for you, but I hope that one or more of the interviews pans out.
FWIW, the job market sucks here, too, but there are still jobs that will at least pay the bills. And we’re coming into the Christmas season, so there’s the possibility of seasonal employment.
Post # 5
*HUGS* Ugh, this is terrible! Is there any way that your hubby can get his job back (taking them to court, filing for workplace discrimination, etc)? I really don’t know all the technicalities that come with being unfaily fired from a job, so maybe some legal bees will be able to help with this one.
As far as the job situation goes for you, just try to keep your head up and keep applying for anything and everything to pull some money in. DH and I both worked jobs that weren’t in our fields just to have some means of money coming in. I wish you guys the best of luck. Sorry that you’re going thru this.
Post # 6
Get jobs, any jobs, jobs washing dishes or ringing up groceries or anything else. Every little bit helps and employers wold rather see that you were employed during times between major jobs.
Post # 6
@HotPinkFire: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I understand how frustrating and scary it is at the same time. FI proposed to me and a week later – he was laid off. Now, this happens often in his field (he’s a plumber), but it was different this time around. The employer screwed him over more than once. Anyways, I only had a 16 hour a week job so that wasn’t cutting it. I had to try and pay bills and save for the wedding. I didn’t get far. FI just recently found a temporary job, but we’re no sure how much longer it’ll last. I’m terrified. Fortunately, I have a full-time job with plenty of opportunities to pick up OT if I need to. Just doesn’t satisfy me though. I can’t be the only one saving any more. Everything is pretty much depleted anyways because of a bump in our road as well.
I wish you the best of luck. I hope both you and your DH can find something for now to hold you over until things start really looking up. If you ever need someone to talk to or vent, please remember that we’re always here.
Post # 7
@HotPinkFire: I’m so incredibly sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately it isn’t uncommon in the world anymore. I would say the two of you need to take an immediate look at what you have in savings right now and map out how to stretch that dollar as far as it can go. No more eating out, no special treats to yourself, no christmas presents if it is going to mean food or no food.
Then both of you need to spend all your extra time applying applying applying. Don’t just apply to what your field is. Apply to absolutely everything. I would say the quickest way to make some money is for one of you to get a job bartending/waitressing. It seems lame but you get cash tips so you have money daily and if you quit it once you find a real job you don’t have to feel that bad. Their used to turnover.
Post # 8
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Take any job you can!
Post # 9
Thank you ladies. I never thought this would happen to us. I wish I could just wake up from this nightmare. I don’t think I’ve ever cried so much in my life.
Post # 10
luckily there is unemployment! that should ease some stress – My husband was laid off in July but luckily had 3 more months of work/pay before having to leave. I work full time but my salary is nothing special (would cover rent/cars buts thats about it) so i was super stressed! i couldnt not figure out how we would make it work. Try not to stress and continue interviewing, it took my husband 8 weeks and 8 different interview to land a job with a HUGE paycut – We always tend to stress out before sitting down and looking at it..we redid our budget so many times in the past few weeks but in the end we will be fine, we just wont be able to save as much as we were which is shitty. Hang in there! and give him as much support as he needs – i know my husband took the layoff/interview process really hard and i had to be the one to lift his spirits – things always work out in the end, try not to stress too much!
Post # 11
I’m sure you’re aware – as long as you were both working “on the books” and are now unemployed through no fault of your own (i.e. you didn’t quit, and you weren’t fired for gross misconduct) you should both be entitled to unemployment benefits. These aren’t huge payments, but they do help make ends meet while you look.
In Texas, people collecting unemployment insurance (which is actually supported by your former employer) are required to apply for a certain number of jobs every week, and the workforce commission will help by providing some job search information.
I know that I only considered jobs in my technical field when I lost my job recently, but it turns out some unexpected companies offer decent pay with good benefits. Whole Foods offers a 401k and health insurance to all full time employees after they’ve worked a certain number of hours – and it’s QUITE affordable. I believe Starbucks also has health insurance benefits. Don’t write off a company just because they aren’t what you have in mind.
Since you’re both in the market at the moment, you should discuss whether or not you’re willing to relocate for work. Depending on the industry you work in, you may have better luck finding a job in another area. Under what circumstances, if any, would it make sense to consider an offer in another city or state?
Good luck, I wish you the best.
Post # 12
I am sorry! This is a HUGE test on the strength of your marriage. There will be times that you and your husband will lash out because of fear and frustation.Try avoid that at all costs.
I would suggest that you guys sit down and talk to each other. Say to him, we are a team and we will survive this TOGETHER. Do not blame each other. It is a situation beyond our control.
Your husband will feel like a failure since a man feels he needs to be the “breadwinner”. Tell him that it is not his fault.
Go to the website http://www.indeed.com . It shows all jobs from all jobs sites and apply 24/7. The strength of your character shows when you are down and get up to get what you want.
I write this from personal experience.
Post # 13
We both lost our jobs right around our wedding as well. DH 6 weeks before and me 4 weeks after. It’s been a struggle, but it’s really brought us together and I was just offered a great job last week. We’re starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Hold on.
Post # 14
@kala_way: glad things are improving for you. Any advice on how to make it through?
we wouldn’t mind moving to another state if we had to. So far we haven’t found anything that we can both even apply for in the same state same area.
Thanks ladies for your words of advice. DH is taking it horribly. It came out of the blue, and is totally unjust and so he feels blind sided. It’s already taking a huge toll on me because I know I cannot go to him to vent or cry and feel like he can be my support for my worry right now. Actually right now I’m respondidng to this in the middle of the night because I feel overwhelmed and cannot sleep. We went from having totally security to almost none at all, and after just being married. It doesn’t seem fair. I know with the economy as is, I cannot be alone… but really never thought this would happen to us. I’m scared. I’m really scared and I’m not sure how to cope when I have to be the one to continue to pick up DH and make him feel better. I want him to feel better. I feel like I’m just having a melt down on the inside.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry, that sounds awful. I know the scary feeling. I’m finishing up school and DH is looking for a job right now= we watch the bank account shrink right before our eyes. I know its hard, but the best thing is to focus on the positive. Focusing on the negative really just turns into a downward spiral, which is not a great place.
On the plus side, you said you had good sized savings, so try to cut way back, take all non essentials out so your money will last as long as possible. We even went wihout birthday presents this year. I know its hard, I’m still working on this part.
Then just apply to everything, like other people said, even things not in your field/ you’re overqualified for. Another positive maybe, you get more time together as newlyweds, and getting through the tough times together always makes the relationship stronger.