(Closed) Just need some advice from the hive!!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would feel the same way.  Why does he talk about someone so much that he doesn’t work with closely but not the person he does work closely with?  You really need to talk to him.

Post # 5
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

@FutureMrs86: I think this might depend on your SO.  Maybe he doesnt mention her because she is dumb as a post and he gets along with the other girl better.  But if its bugging you bring it up for peace of mind. I know i work with a lot of men but i only really ever mention one or two because i get along with them best. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Maybe the pretty girl is really boring and he has nothing to say about her.

Post # 7
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

She could be boring. He could be feeling guilty about having a work crush, but I still wouldn’t worry about it. I’m fully okay with someone having work crush as long as they don’t cross the line. Hell, this is the first job where I don’t have a little crush on somone. But they are usually harmless.

I would just ask him, why he never mentions her.

Post # 8
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

This same thing happened to me recently and I teased Darling Husband about it until he was red in the face! We get our hair cut at the same salon, but by different stylists since mine is too expensive to justify his semi-monthly quick cut. I had always known the name of his girl, but she is somewhat new so I didn’t know who she was until my last appointment. I asked my stylist who “Cher” was and she pointed to this young beautiful girl who is exactly my DH’s ‘type’ (she looked just like me, only taller and younger). So when I got home that night I totally teased Darling Husband and he immediately covered his face in embarassment 🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would probably ask him really casually about her, like “it was so nice to meet x, she seems like a nice girl”, and see what he says. If he acted really weird I might do a little investigating, but if not I’d probably drop it. If he’s harboring a work crush he might be ignoring it, so I’d be worried about making him confront his feelings, like it might make them more legitimate. In some cases denial and repression are perfectly healthy things, especially when you’re forced to be near someone every day.

Post # 10
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451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My SO works in two elementary schools… and he’s the ONLY man in both (except for the art teacher, but they aren’t there on the same days).

He would always joke that he worked with all older women, but when I went to the chorus concert (he’s the music teacher) I saw some pretty young thangs haha.

So afterward, I asked him what his definition of OLD was. He said that even though he saw the other “young” women (which turned out to be older than I though… homegirls just looked GOOD) every week, he just didn’t pay attention to them because they were the ones who were just filled with gossip and had nothing good to say. He looked up to the older ones since they had more experience and he’s there to teach- not gossip about what sally wore out the other night.

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