Post # 1
I am a nurse, I work in NICU, and 99% of the time I take what I see there in stride. Things really don’t get to me that often, even though I think I see more than my fair share of crappy things.
But … although I have dealt with drug-addicted babies before, and it really bugs me every time, they are really wearing me down.
I spent my last 4 shifts with a poor, screaming, baby strapped to me (in a baby wrap), because despite us maxing out meds to sedate her, she was still screaming, and clawing at her face when she was left alone. Even strapped to me, I had to sit with her in a dark room, listening to her whimper, feeling her tremor, and trying to feed her every 3 hours for 4 straight nights.
All because her mom wouldn’t give up drugs for her baby. This is her 3rd drug addicted baby that had been voluntarily relinquished to social services and placed into foster care.
She didn’t even care enough to visit her baby even once.
People try so hard to get pregnant, they would do anything for their unborn babies, and this woman just gets knocked up and then takes drugs, so her baby is born craving drugs, and spends the first 2 months of its life fighting addiction.
I just needed to vent, because my heart is broken for that poor little girl that I bonded with this weekend in our quiet, dark little room.
Post # 3
🙁 🙁 🙁 oh my gosh, that is beyond horrible. i can’t believe any mother would do that to her helpless baby. how badly does this ruin their life and future health?
Post # 4
That is such a sad story…but at least the child will have a chance at having a healthy life because she will be out of the drug environment and hopefully be adopted by a wonderful family. You are doing wonderful work and helping save lives…when you are heartbroken or upset about these types of things, don’t forget that!
Post # 5
That is a sad story, I can’t imagine how hard that situation must be to witness.
Post # 6
Oh dear my heart is broken just listening to this. Thank goodness that we have people like you to take care of these poor little souls. I too feel so incrediably angry that a person could feel so little about the life of a child. I just can never understand it. Maybe it’s because I have never been in the position of a mother like this, but I still can’t understand how you could feel not one shred of love for your own child.
It’s so sad that there are so many healthy, strong women out there that can’t concieve and women like this can just throw their babies away. Thankfully that child will have a better chance at life without that women in her life. Thank you for being that small child’s strength when she needs it most.
My heart goes out to you and all that you do.
Post # 7
That is just sad all around for everyone involved. Poor little babies! 🙁
Post # 8
Wow. Well all I can really say is thank god for nurses like you! I can only imagine how taxing it is for you but we need more like you. And yes, it is a shame that this woman continues to do this, she shouldn’t be allowed to have children. My prayers go to the baby who will hopefully pull through and find a loving and caring home.
Post # 9
That mom should be sterilized. How sad 🙁 it just breaks my heart
Post # 10
As a mother of an Angel Baby (lost at 34 weeks and 2 days), I want to first say how much my nurse helped me. She left us alone, but checked on up periodically and lovingly. Then, when we delivered, she remembered that we didn’t want to see Moose’s body. Even though the doctor didn’t really care about what we wanted, she took the time to make sure something was set up. She held my hand and encouraged me and treated me like a daughter. I really hope, if I have a baby, that she’s my nurse because I love her even though I can’t remember her name. She even offered to sit with me while my hubby went to get me sushi (because I coudn’t have it for 9 months). Anyway, what you do is so important and I’m sure you don’t get told enough how much you help people.
As for drug addicted mothers, well, I’ll just say that if I ever see a pregnant woman smoking a cigarette, I’m going to tell her how I did EVERYTHING right and lost my baby for no reason. Yes, I will completely harass her because she’s an idiot and I say this as a child of a woman who smoked with all three of her kids. Anyway, drug addicted mothers, well, I don’t think that my feelings are internet safe.
Post # 11
This breaks my heart, but I am happy there are nurses as compassionate as you! It is horrible to see a baby go through withdrawal. My friend adopted a baby girl born to a heroin addict. It was horrible for the family to see the tiny little baby suffering. Once the baby gets through this, I pray she finds a happy loving family like she truly deserves!
Post # 12
Thanks for listening, and the kind comments everyone! I must be hormonal or something, because even thinking of my weekend makes the tears well up.
I just wish that women who would be at risk for drug use in pregnancy could see how much pain these babies are in when they are withdrawing from the drugs. That just won’t happen. The sad truth, is that most of these women give birth to multiple babies, all while doing drugs.
I know that someday that little girl will end up with a family, who will love her and cherish her. That does make me happy.
I am also a little sad, that I am going on a mini-moon in a couple days, and likely she will be home with her foster family before I get back to work next weekend, so I won’t get to say goodbye.
Post # 14
How terrible. Thank God for people like you with the patience and heart to help take care of them when their parent’s are worthless.
Post # 15
My heart really goes out to you. I am finishing up my pre-reqs now for nursing school, and I have been interested in NICU for a really long time. I only hope when I get to that point I can be as strong as you.
Post # 16
@pumpkinpatch: I have always said that NICU is the best, and the worst place to work. You see what can only be described as miraculous recoveries. You get to cuddle babies sometimes. You are also there for what is every parents nightmare (everyone always says all they want it a healthy baby, NICU is what happens when they don’t get that one basic wish), and you can make a difference for the parents and the babies. It is really hard though, you have to keep your emotions is check, it is extremely technical, and fast-paced. I have seen a lot of 4th year nursing students come in for their final practicum, and decide it isn’t for them, but thats why there are all different kinds of nursing! Good luck with nursing school, it can be tough, but I had a lot of fun in school!