(Closed) Just need to get this out (long/detailed)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d drop that girl like a bad habit. She sounds toxic. She wants to be there for selfish reasons, not to be there to support your marriage. How is she going to behave when you have kids? Is she going to demand to be co godmother? You don’t need that kind of toxicity in your life. That’s just my opinion.


Post # 5
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t have her in my party at ALL if I were you. My best friend and I had a horrible falling out over a similar situation (she felt I was “abandoning her” by being with my SO).

We have repaired the relationship and are enjoying each others company again, but I’m not going to have her as a bridesmaid. I always thought she would be my maid of honor, but now I’m just aiming for a stress-free wedding. Of course she’ll be invited and I still adore her, but this is the best decision for me.


Post # 7
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

I wouldn’t even deal with her. I understand that it’s really hard to have these difficult converations with people that you care about, but I feel that if she really cared, she wouldn’t flip over a title. Your bridesmaids and especailly your Maid/Matron of Honor should be the people who care about you most and just want to see you happy. In my opinion, the people in your wedding party shouldn’t care about titles, but rather seeing you happy and being a part of one of the most spectacular, love-filled days of your life. If she can’t be there for you or happy for you without a Maid/Matron of Honor title, I wouldn’t give her my time (easier said than done though). I’m sorry that you have been put in this postition and she is dampering on the process. 

If it were me, I would sit her down and re-address the topic and my concerns. If she was whatever about it then I would just tell her that I felt she wasn’t invested/ doing what she should be as a Maid/Matron of Honor. Best of luck, and I hope that you are happy with whatever choice you make!

The topic ‘Just need to get this out (long/detailed)’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors