(Closed) Just need to get this out…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8823 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

2 weeks before her wedding, i’m sure that is all that is on everyone’s mind.  after her wedding is over, i’m sure people will start asking you how planning is going.

what if you have a 1 or 5 year anniversary vow renewal and have the party of your dreams then?

Post # 4
9118 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well, her wedding is a lot closer so people will be paying more attention to that.

My husband and I had no choice to get married via JoP. He is in the Navy and it was a weekend between his deployments (He came home, we got married, he left again.) and getting leave for him has been an uphill battle. We’re having our formal wedding on the 15th because only our parents were able to come to the JoP wedding. Why not do the same a year or so down the line? Everyone deserves to have a formal wedding if they want one. You absolutely can too. Don’t let anybody tell you that just because you got married JoP, you’re not allowed to have your fancy one, too.

Post # 5
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Weddings are so emotional for everyone. You’d be surprised the things you feel while wedding planning. I had a moment yesterday, over something that’s really not that big a deal, but it really felt like it.

Our friends had a similar wedding to what you’re going to have. They eloped to the JOP one day (April Fool’s Day, actually, and they had to carry their marriage license around to prove they were really married) and then set up a reception at a restaurant later. It was fun! They rented a room upstairs and had food and drinks and dancing and karaoke. We had a blast. You can definitely make what you can afford perfect and beautiful!

Post # 6
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry you’re so unhappy!  You have options though, and they’re not necessarily expensive ones.  One of my best girlfiends is on a super low budget – she’s got $1k to spend.  For EVERYTHING.  She didn’t want the courthouse option, so she picked out a lovely little park in her town.  Rental of the park AND pavilion was only $50!  She’s shopping the David’s Bridal sale this weekend for her dress, and once that’s picked out, we’ll be hitting up Ebay for a belt and maybe a little birdcage veil.  She’s looking at $300 or less for dress + accessories.  She’s also having her dinner reception at a local restaurant, they agreed on a per person cost, and she’s looking at 2 salad options, some shared appetizers for the table and 2 dinner choices.  We’re hitting up the Whole Foods in her neighborhood (they have AWESOME flowers) for a couple of their mixed bouquets, getting some ribbon from Michaels and going with the hand tied bouquet look. 

Get creative!  There’s no reason you can’t have a wedding if you want one!

Post # 7
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you’ll feel differently about your wedding memories/pictures once it’s all over.  Fairy tale weddings are reserved for big bash, high dollar weddings. 🙂

Post # 9
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Caila:  I was totally where you are and completely understand.

We initially announced a local wedding (130 guests) and then had to cancel bc the cost and planning got so overwhelming.

It is such a tough spot to be in. Having your own expectations and dreams and everyone else’s expectations.

If could go back, I would’ve talked to all my family about it. Because, now I know that their churches or connections would’ve been options and saved us a ton of money. If only I had reached out vs just canceling I might’ve been able to have a wedding with all my family. I’m just used to depending on myself and not asking for help, so I never thought about it. Plus I’m not close with most of them anyway.

Now, we’re having a destination wedding (30 guests) and I’m finally happy about it.


Like pp have said, there is hope!

Right now it’s tough, but I bet after the other wedding is over with ppl will start asking about yours. If you open up about the difficulty you’re going through, they might surprise you with volunteering to do things or hook you up with ppl who can give you a venue for cheap.

Best wishes. I can’t wait to hear what happens.


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