Post # 1
My girlfriends and I have been close since high school and would always give each other gifts and do dinners during birthdays or catch-ups on a fortnightly basis.
However over the past year, one or two of them seems to have gone a little wild with the idea of going on trips at every possible occasion. As a last hoorah to celebrate our combined 30th, we went on a tropical island trip complete with fine dining at award winning restaurants, snorkelling tours, boat hire, etc. Just when I thought that was “the last”, one of them decided to organize a Bachorlorette for one of the girls getting married. So we ended up going to to a mountain retreat, complete with stripper, cottage accommodation, fine dining, spa treatments, etc. That was just the first girl, with the idea of the 6th and last one to get the biggest party of all…in Las Vegas. Considering we don’t live anywhere near America, this would cost minimum $1500 to fly there and back.
Now I find out one of the girls is leaving to work for a year in the UK, so some random idea come out…a weekend trip to see her off and then here comes the crazy part…meet up with her during her China stopover on the way back?!!!
None of us are well-off, all with full time day jobs…2 of us just bought our own bungalows and ironically the one of the ideas is poorest and struggling to even get together a deposit for a house while the most “well off” is a nurse that has parents paying her mortgage.
I feel like the party popper (totally can relate to main character in Bridesmaids, when she couldn’t afford the Las Vega bachorette trip, haha) as I’m only one out of 6 girls who disagrees on all this constant spending…have any of you been in a same situation as this?
Post # 3
Omg…I could NOT handle this. I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. Just be honest with them and let them know that you love them and you love spending time with them, but you just cannot afford to go.
Post # 4
Hm, my friends travel & do stuff a lot more often than I do. If I can’t afford it, I just tell them I can’t afford it. It’s not a big deal. It’s not my business whether they can/can’t afford all these trips, I just only go on the ones I can reasonably afford to go on, and pass on the rest.
Post # 5
Just say no. You decide what to do with your money, not them.
Post # 6
@greenviolets: Arghhh, so glad someone feels the same! One trip after another would bust anyone’s bank eventually, even I don’t know how they can keep it up, as much as I love em!
Post # 7
@les105: Yeh one of the girls has said no once or twice and other girls have still chipped for one part of her flight! Obviously they think the more the merrier.
More just ranting that its starting to feel the slightest bit frivlous no matter how much fun everyone is having.
Post # 8
this may have been fun when I was single but I’d hate it now. Plus, nothign bothers me more than watching people overspend on vacations when they don’t really have the means to do so. A friend of mine went on a cruise with student loan money and wanted me to join. No thanks!
Post # 9
Wow, that sounds like fun as long as you have the funds and want to go on these trips. If you dont, I would simply say that you can afford to go and sit it out.
Post # 10
I can see the good intentions they have, but it’s not realistic for people to blow that kind of money on trips like that. Not to mention using up vacation time.