Post # 1
My bridal shower is on Saturday, 2 days away, and i invited about 40 people. There will be a total of 8 people there. Yes, 8. On the invite, it says RSVP: Regrets only to (my moms cell phone) and she didn’t recieve ONE phone call. I would approach my friends and say “ooh i can’t wait to see you on Saturday1” and their response “oooh i can’t make it”. Seriously? its 2 hours out of your day. I have done SO much for all these people. I’m the kind of friend thats always there for you, talks to you, helps you, whatever. and i get nothing in return. I only recieved about half of my wedding RSVPs back too and they are suppose to be back by the 17th. I’m so just upset because I had to plan my own party for myself and pay for it myself and no one has the consideration to call and say they can’t come. Everyone was just not going to show up.
Its not about the presents, at all, it’s about my friends supporting our marriage because not a lot of people do. My entire family will not be there except for my mom and sister. My dad, grandparents, aunts, uncles, no one will be there. Planning this wedding has honestly been the worst experience of my entire life. I am now broke, stressed, and now realizing what little friends I have.
Its just upsetting because I don’t have a lot. I really have nothing. We gave up our apartment to move in with my fiance (also a girl) grandparents since they are both sick and incapable of living on their own. We had to give our dog to a friend since we can’t have dogs at the grandparents house. I feel like I lost everything planning this wedding. My house, my dog, my dad and my aunts and uncles are no longer on speaking terms, and now apparently neither are me and a lot of my “friends”. My birthday is the day after my shower and it’s just so upsetting to me.
Everytime we have a birthday in our friend circle, I give money towards the cake and I decorate. It just kills me because I do so much for everyone and I jsut get spit on.
Sorry for venting, but I needed to get this off my chest. Ive been crying for days now and honestly, if I knew I was going to go through all this pain, time, money, everything I would have just eloped.
Post # 3
Awww ((HUGS)). I’m so sorry all this is happening to you. If it helps, I only had about 5 friends come to my shower, and 3 of them were BMs. Everyone else was family. I have found that a lot of my friends have shown their true colors since I was planning my wedding as well.
I wish there was something I could do to help with your pain 🙁
Post # 4
@MrsSl82be: Aww thanks! Planning this wedding has been horrible. I asked 2 of my best friends to be my bms and they backed out. So I asked 2 others and then they both backed out, so I have my partners sister as my bm. Only 1. It’s a small wedding. There are sooo many other problems we’ve delt with (one example lead to us not talking to my father or his entire side of the family). Between the both of us only 7 family members are attending the wedding and only 2 are coming to the shower. It’s been so horrible, Im glad I have “the one” because i never want to get married again.
But thanks for your kind words, I needed to hear them. 🙂
Post # 5
I wish you lived close to me. I’d be there in a heartbeat!
Post # 6
aw ((HUGS)) I know there seems to be a lot of negativity in your life right now but look at it this way… you’re MARRYING you W2B!! That’s absolutley amazing, starting a new life together on a new adventure!
And remember, as one door closes, another one opens…! x ~B
Post # 7
aww thanks ladies for your help! its certainly a roller coaster on my end but Im hoping things get better. todays my shower, ill let you know how many show up. Tomorrows my birthday and so far no one has mentioned anything to me. Just sucks realizing what little friends I have. But youre right, Im marrying my best friend and I cant wait.
Post # 8
I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending you virtual HUGS! I can totally relate to feeling like you just don’t matter to frends/family when you go out of your way to be there for them. Keep your head up and your eye on the “prize” which is marrying the love of your life. Trust me, I know it is easier said than done, but at the end of the day, if NO ONE ELSE shows up, all that matters is that you and your partner are there. Nothing else matters but the love you share.
If you need to chat I’m here for you. I have very few friends myself and really do understand what you are feeling.
Post # 10
Thank you all so much! Yes, I always think that I have all these friends but apparently I don’t. Today was my shower, about…7 showed up. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great. The friends who I thought were always there for me weren’t. One of my friends who celebrates everyones birthdays and goes all out and buys everyone cakes and whatnot didn’t show, nor remembered my birthday is tomorrow. Her birthday is next month, I will NOT be doing anything for her, at all. My RSVPs are due on Wednesday, I’m still waiting for hers, but I’m not asking for it. If I dont have it then shes not coming.
All in all, my shower wasn’t a complete disaster. I spent about 400 bucks total on everything and only recieved about 100 bucks worth of gifts. I know it’s not about the gifts, but it just kills me that no one got me anything for my partner and I. I should have canceled the shower and spent 400 bucks on my registry items.
I’m just sad today 🙁 but tomorrow is another day and all your hugs mean the world to me 🙂 this website makes me feel like SOMEONE understands me. Love you all!
Post # 11
@Karen91602: I’m glad you had some fun, but I’m sorry it didn’t turn out to be everything you hoped it would be. 🙁 I hope you are having a great birthday… is your SO taking you out to do something fun? Just focus all your energy and love on her and those who have shown support to the two of you. Remember that this wedding is about the two of you, so whoever wants to support you, AWESOME, but if not, it’s their loss- seriously. Even if it’s just the two of you on your wedding day, don’t let that bring you down because you two are going to have an amazing life together. 🙂
Again, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! 😀
Post # 12
I hope you have a great birthday!
Post # 13
Sadly, my SO will be working 5am till 3pm and ill be at work from 245pm until 1145pm. Needless to say we will not be seeing each other 🙁 but I’m sure we will find some time soon to celebrate! We had a mini bbq after the shower for my birthday with her family. It was nice.
Hope you are all enjoying your weekend!