(Closed) Just need to vent a little… before I cry longish

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 4
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Busy bee

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Sometimes family will treat you worse than a friend will, or sometimes it feels like it’s worse because you expected better from them. Keep your head up and I know you will find something soon. Have you considered some work online or over the phone. I know a lot of companies are looking for someone to work out of their home for customer service. I work at a bank and our entire customer service team works from their home.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

My grandfather is like that too, and I think its because of the depression. They are like packrats, buying things they dont need and then holding onto them and not letting anyone have them because their scared they may need it one day and wont have it when they do. You may have to go around your grandfather or get someone closer to him to ask him in your favor. Maybe if you get something in writing and notarized saying you will pay him this much by this time he may feel more inclined, but he could be scared to be burned because like I said before, family can burn you much worse than a stranger.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Well if he gets that nasty about it, I would get a lawyer involved. Just for advice and see what your options are. Why would he be so mean?

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I know what you mean. MY FI’s family is pretty class-less too, but they dont have any money…so even if they could afford to be classy, chances are they wouldnt be lol.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

you said you had stock market money … can you use this to help out with the bills?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

“my brother is a hoodlum i have never met a jewisjh boy from a well to do family who thinks he was raised in compton!” I’m sorry but I had to laugh ’cause this describes someone I know to a tee!

But seriously. I don’t get why some people use their money to manipulate people. Your grandfather sounds kinda unreasonable but maybe you could ask him to cut your payments down and you could pay it back over a longer time period. I would also get it in writing!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

maybe you need to enroll him in a scared straight program…drop him off in the hood, see how he does lol

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Honestly, if/when you have more stable income…I would look into remortgaging the property through a bank.  Less emotional hassle than borrowing from family.  In the meantime, have you and your grandfather signed a contract?  Whose name is the title in?  It might be a good idea to do a consultation with a real estate lawyer, because the LAST thing you want is to be paying $1500 per month and not end up with the legal title.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

first of all—56,000 is soooo cheap for a condo. the condos around where we live start at around 300k! YOU GOT A STEAL! 🙂

 

don’t either you or your fi have any type of savings? Also, I thought it was mean that you called your grandpa selfish when he did you a favor.

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