(Closed) Feeling lost…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1330 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Treasure43: ::hugs::  its never too late to make a career change…ur right in saying that u shouldn’t let others opinions impact you so much…and trust me, as one who values others opinions, i kno its easier said than done!!!  as long as you stay strong, and keep on track in figuring things out, things will work out the way they should….keep ur head up hun! 

edited to add:  i also understand about feeling lost…i wrote a thread on my situation if u’d like to read it… http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/l-love-to-designperiod

again, keep ur head up! 😉

Post # 4
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m so sorry to hear that!  Bottom line is, you shouldn’t stay at a job that makes you miserable and stressed and sick.  I also think it’s not cool that your Mother-In-Law thinks you should get her approval (basically) on your professional life–it’s something that you should discuss with your husband, and maybe talk it over with your mom or best friend if you want, but that’s it.  Good luck with your job search!

Post # 5
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

First of all – good on you for making such a tough decision. I think you did the right thing – your mental well-being is important and is more important than any job.

I really don’t see why your Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law would be so upset over this. It’s your career and you need to do what’s right for you. Of course they may feel a little worried, but they shouldn’t be bothering you with their worries. Obviously this is a tough time for you. They should be supportive and helpful.

Post # 6
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010


Sounds like your ILs have a bit of trouble expressing concern in constructive ways.  If they’re worried, or feel they have hard-won wisdom gained from years of experience that might be helpful, then then need to find ways of conveying that information that don’t include emotional blackmail.

You made the decision that’s best for you, and only you and Fiance really know the inner workings of your financial life. 


Post # 7
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally understand about being lost. I have a college degree in poli-sci, managed federal campaigns, and am now sick to death of campaign work (and there is little around locally). I have no want to work in DC and my last three employers are deceased. Now I have no idea what I want to do. In the mean time I am bartending and liking it with great owners and customers.

There are a lot of us in your shoes, its tough, but we are tougher. When a door shuts a window opens, it just might not be the window you thought.

Post # 8
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Big hugs. I decided to do a massive career change right after the wedding/honeymoon too. Trust me when I say that in the long term your health and sanity are so important in your chosen job. You do not want to start your newly married life crying when you come home from work every night. And you’ll find something and everything will work out financially – you’ve just got to stay active and stay positive.

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