- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I come from a pretty large family of 7 brothers and sisters. I have estranged relationships with two sisters but a few months ago, in order for my mom to be happy, I tried reaching out to them to try and build a relationship and it didn’t really work out, we have nothing in common and they’re just very negative. For example, they have no friends other than each other because they think EVERYBODY is ugly or defective therefore not worthy of being seen with them. (They’re terms). My mom then invited them to my dress appointment and it was then that they appointed themselves to be Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor, the consultant asked “so are these the BM’s? To what the youngest responded “I am but she’s the MOH”; I let it go because again, it would make my mom happy.
I’ve known my STBH for over 15 years and have been living with him for 6; a few months ago they started saying really bad things about me and SO to our family and mutual friends and posting on FB as well. They’re biggest issue is that we don’t go out drinking and clubbing with them therefore he is controlling me. It’s not the case at all; I am a mother of two and find entertainment elsewhere. Well they think I’m miserable and up tight etc. Anyway, after I had enough, I sent both of them a message informing them that due to the recent circumstances, I wasn’t sure if they should be part of my wedding because a BM/MOH is supposed to be supportive of your relationship and happy your marrying the love of your life which is the complete opposite of their feelings towards us. Well as expected, they told me they were happy I saved them the trouble of stepping down and they were no longer my family. I thought it was a bit drastic but somewhat predictable.
Just last week, my mom calls to tell me she wants to talk to me about the incident and I politely tell her I didn’t feel I needed to discuss anything further. She didn’t say anything else but now I’m wondering how she’s going to feel the day of the wedding when my two sisters are not there. Maybe I acted immature in that split second but the reason I don’t have a relationship with them is because I feel I am MATURE. I have a career, children, and a loving FH; I just don’t have the time or energy for all the drama.
Just in case you’re wondering, one sister is 31 (older than me) and the other is 20.