(Closed) Just need to vent for a minute…

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Eh, I guess I need more info. Was this a planned trip? Like did they book flight tickets that cannot be returned?

If so, I wouldn’t really be annoyed with them.

If they live a few hours away and drove by car…then, yeah, I’d say the best thing would have been for them to reschedule for another weekend. In the end, they must have really missed you both and wanted to see you. So, it’s not really worth getting yourself more upset over. Try to relax, drink a lot of fluids, and get a lot of rest.

Post # 17
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Helper bee

amb1030:  It’s okay. I figured that’s what happened.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

Eep I get you!! I hate when people are definitely unwell (like not just a little head cold) and think its fine to do a heap of non-essential human interaction. We have someone who does this ALL the time at work. Oh and the slightest mention or “we had gastro yesterday but you guys can come round for dinner…” NOPE NOPE NOPE!

it sounds like the inlaws could have rescheduled,  though if theyd booked this trip ages ago and live far away or something then it would be a bit different.

Hope you feel better soon!

Post # 19
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Worker bee

Oh that’s no fun and frustrating.  Take care of yourself and maybe catch up on some old movies, books, binge some Netflix episodes or Pinterest.  Anything that keeps you busy, if you feel up to it.  Enjoy a cup of tea, that might help your throat.  Stock up on sanitizing spray before their next visit.  I hope you feel better soon!

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I hate that.  It is super annoying.  Rest up!  Lots of fluids and thieves oil and probiotics, and hopefully you will be feeling better soon!

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Ugh, that would piss me off… especially since I have a newborn at home. I hope you feel better soon. 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

My Darling Husband swears by a shot of whiskey to stop his coughing, lol.  

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I’m totally on your side OP. It’s worse when you have young kids too. Some people are so incredibly selfish!

loz24:  Of course I’d ask them not to come!! If it’s the sniffles okay, whatever, you’re bound to catch a cold whatever you do but if it’s the flu or a nasty contagious virus they should be resting at home and not infecting other people! If OP had a young baby would you think differently?

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

MrsYoshida:  I would not think differently if OP had a young baby because that is how children develop immunity. Yes strains of viruses develop and change and you might get a different strain but to not expose your children to any illnesses makes them sicker in the long haul. The inlaws evidently felt well enough to travel and therefore may not have fully been aware of how contagious they are. My Father-In-Law travels a lot for work and spends a lot of time on planes, he is usually back in or country and stays with us about 6 times a year. He’s probably ill for half of those. Sometimes he makes us ill, sometimes he doesn’t. More than likely if we’re  ill he has caught some bug but there is also something spreading around either of our works because that’s what bugs do. We could get annoyed about him coming back but to be honest it’s still nice to see him (well providing he’s behaving) regardless of whether he makes us ill or not. Now had the OP been receiving chemo, a chemo nurse, or had close family receiving chemo, yeh I’d be pissed because that can make someone unbelievably sick. I have had to skip meeting my aunt because she’s had chemo and Father-In-Law had come back with a bug but it’s not worth causing an argument for.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

loz24:  Do you not have kids? If someone doesnt want to expose their kids to an ill person (which is most parents) they should have the right to decline that exposure.

Your logic says that it’s ok to knowingly expose young children to an illness but it’s not ok to expose someone who is in chemo. That’s one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever read. There are a lot more diseases that lower immunity than having cancer. How about it’s not your decision to make and you should have the common decency to let someone know when you are sick before exposing them and let them decide for themselves. 

 

And not exposing your kids to currently sick people does not make them sicker later on. Please  educate yourself. 

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