- 7 years ago
So I’m a regular poster on this site, but I prefer to stay anonymous for this post. Here’s the story: my mom has these “friends” in her social circle she’s known for over 15 years. Let’s call them Ramona, Miranda, and Tina. Ramona, Miranda, and Tina each have a daughter and I am best friends with all 3 daughters and have been for many years as well. My mom, Ramona, Miranda, and Tina had some drama that went on in the past but it looks like things have quieted down in the last 6 or 7 years ago, and whenever the 4 of them see each other, things seem fine. However, my mom cannot seem to let go of the past. Every time I come home, and we talk, she always brings up the past and talks about how badly Ramona, Miranda, and Tina treated her then. I love her, but my mom isn’t innocent though….she is a straight shooter and sometimes there are things that should be left unsaid than told to someone’s face. She also thinks these women messed up her social life by talking about her behind her back, and they honestly didn’t because she still gets invited everywhere and people are nice to her. Infact, they (Ramona and Miranda especially), are the ones who still don’t get invited everywhere in their social circle. My mom also doesn’t like that Ramona and Miranda’s daughters have become friends with one of my friends, and thinks that they just want to be friends with whoever I’m friends with. Last time I checked, I don’t own any of my friends, and they are free to be friends with whoever they want. I think that maybe Ramona, Miranda, and Tina were probably just a little jealous of my mom in past, and might still be, but to me, all of this is just petty nonsense, and I always tell her to just let go of it and move on and not talk about it anymore. I understand her need to vent, but I think she just needs to get over the past.
Sorry for the long rant! I don’t know if anyone can relate to this?