(Closed) Just need to vent to get over this.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Why did he tell you during sex?! I think that would bug me the most.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@manda21: lol oh my.  I’d be hurt if Fiance picked THAT time to tell me though also.  I mean, I guess it’s good that he told you, but still!
What would make you feel better at this point?  

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

For the record, I have absolutely no problems with strip clubs, don’t at all if my man goes and in fact, sometimes we even go together with groups of friends. His giong to a strip club for his bachelor party wouldn’t bother me at all. However, he and I have been together for about six years and have always been pretty open about stuff like that. If I were in your shoes, I would be upset that I didn’t know beforehand (because I would think that he had something to hide) and then, after he told you, I would be upset that he didn’t understand why you were upset and didn’t try to comfort you. I think what would make me most sad is that you two are on such different pages. Any underlying issues come up during your big blowout fight?

You two definitely need to sit down and hash this out – it’s almost your wedding day!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@manda21: Then that’s exactly what you need to tell him 🙂  “This is why I’m upset, and this is what I want from you.”  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The only thing that would bother me about Fiance going to a strip club is that he didn’t take me.

But wow, what in the hell made him think that THAT was a great time to tell you? You guys not only need to have a heart to heart about that, but his avoidance and “text apology”. That’s not acceptable.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why did he tell you during sex?!

because it made him feel a little bit naughty or kinky?  which personally i find sexy but i dont expect others to feel the same way

sorry OP you are upset – i can only imagine the stresses you are under right now so vent away *hugs*

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you’re upset. I agree that you need to talk with him ASAP. Telling you during sex was kinda….icky in my opinion. But I’d sit down with him and let him know exactly what is bothering you and why you are bothered.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Fiance went to a strip club for the first time last weekend for another friends bachelor party.  I didn’t think it would bother me, and it didn’t.  He didn’t really talk about what he saw there (cept to say that the drinks were damn expensive) and I didn’t really care to ask. 

On your story though, what an awful time to talk about it!  Why would he bring it at then!?  And then to be annoyed at you being upset and not wanting to talk about it??  I’d be pissed about that too!

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