- 5 years ago
I’m writing this post because I’m hurt about some things my fiance said. If people want to give advice go ahead.
So, yesterday, we were all cool with each other. He was telling me about how he wants to marry and have children someday and how he really loves me. Then, today it all went downhill.
I will admit that I wasn’t in the best mood towards him today after he didn’t message me at all this morning as he usually does. However, I tried not to complain about it to him. But since I wasn’t very happy about him not saying anything in the morning at all, I didn’t feel like talking much with him later today either, so when he was messaging me in the evening, I didn’t say much. That is when it all started: Suddenly, he asked me about what I think about our relationship. I asked why he was asking, and asked him the same question. He starts basically telling me that he doesn’t know anymore. And starts complaining about how we haven’t been talking much, to which I asnwered with “Wasn’t it your choice?”. I mean, on his day off work, he was barely talking to me, and when I complained about it, he told me that just because it’s his day off doesn’t mean he has to talk to me so much, and called me annoying. But I thought that today, we were fine, despite me not being in the best mood about him. At least I didn’t complain until he started complaining himself about how we were not talking.
Fast forward a bit throughout the arguing.
(OK. I don’t have a job yet. Obviously not by choice, but I haven’t been called to any interviews, etc. And a lot of times, he’ll say that me not having a job doesn’t bother him, but it really seems like it does, and he brings up quite a bit when we fight.)
Now this is the part that really hurt me:
He said stuff like I’m just with him because of his money, and that if I didn’t want his money, I would be OK with just marrying in courthouse and would not care about having a ceremony. It’s not like he’s rich at all, so I don’t know why he would say that, but whatever. He told me that I’m also only with him because I want someone to take care of me financially. When I told him that I have other people who can take care of me financially so I don’t need HIM for that, he starts being condescending saying “Yeah. Great life. How can you live like that?”. He also said that I only have a body and a cute smile to offer. I feel like, for him, I have no right to complain about anything he does at all because he works for our wedding, so I should just be grateful and not complain about anything he does at all.
He keeps telling me he loves me, but I’m honestly really hurt that he would say that stuff to me. Right now, I have him blocked on Facebook (where we usually talk through). I’m hoping he’ll realise what he said was hurtful and apologizes, but I have my doubts he’ll even do that.
I would appreciate if people who reply to this replied with actual advice, and kept the sarcastic and condescending comments to themselves.