(Closed) Just need to vent/Hurtful things fiance (?) said.

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 63
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352 posts
Helper bee

you continue to sound like a child, sorry, “why should I apologize and not him” because you acted like a child and in return so did he. You don’t apologize to get something in return, you apologize because you understand that your behavior was ridiculous and that it brought on more problems… And this does not sound like you are bipolar and trying to self diagnose to get some sympathy and act however you want without taking responsibility it’s not being bipolar. Sorry if this offends you but a lot of people tried to tell you nicely that you did something wrong and it’s not sinking in.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  cbpokrz85.
Post # 64
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3224 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

T12345:  So you’re unemployed and probably have tons of time all day long to message him, but when he didn’t message you first in the morning you….what? Sat around getting angry and then gave him the cold shoulder when he did message you at night? Why didn’t you message him first in the morning? WTF kind of games are you playing? My Fiance and I always send each other an “I love you, have a good day” text during the day and when we’re too busy to do that and I realize it at the end of the day I get a little sad, so I understand your POV, but the way you went about it was totally immature. You need to apologize NOW – apologizing during the heat of the moment did no good obviously and sometimes you just have to be the bigger person in a mature relationship. Then again, yours doesn’t sound very mature. As for your email, yes I think it’s okay to have that conversation with him about the things he said HOWEVER, you should not have sent it in an email. And that claim at the end where you’re “more than likely to have bipolar disorder”? Um, if you don’t have it (diagnosed) don’t try to use it as an excuse, that’s super disrespectful. If you think you do have it, go get diagnosed. Then have a mature conversation with your Fiance about how that will impact your relationship going forward and what kind of support you need from him. But that is still not an excuse to treat him poorly. 

Post # 65
Member
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

I’m not even going to get into who’s at fault here/who needs to apologize.  I just wanted to pipe in and say this relationship does not sound healthy, at all.  I think you should break up.  You can’t be happy when you’re constantly afraid to speak your mind in case it angers him and blows up into an argument.  To me it sounds that you would both benefit from being single for awhile.

Post # 69
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1324 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

do not get married to each other. and please, break up. you two are not right for each other, and you both sound too immature to get married.  

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