(Closed) Just need to vent…She is seriously messed up!

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Post # 77
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Janielum:  only to be forced to compete with an 8 year old in a bouquet toss.  

Oh my a big lol to that. You’re acting like boquet tosses actually determine who’s getting married next.  It’s just a fun little game, or at least it should be, obvioulsy people take it far too seriously.  So this may be a shock to you but the person who chatches it is not necressarily the person who’s getting married next.  I can understand why you’d feel it is unfair to have 8 year olds compete in such a perstigeous cometition then casue then you’re waiting another 15 years.

I have proof too.  The wedding I attended before mine a little girl caught it.  I’d be very suprised to hear she’s married even now, but I sure as hell didn’t rip it out of her hands.

On my wedding the lady who caught it still isn’t married but another one is, so really you need to simmer down.

Post # 78
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Blushing bee

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@hermom:  you are welcome to disagree!  I’m not doing a bouquet toss, but if I were, I would never humiliate my single WOMEN friends by forcing them to compete with children.  The bouquet toss meant virtually nothing to an 8 year old child, but it was greatly humiliating to a 30 something year old woman to be grouped with a child.  

i suspect there is a lot of malice between these cousins that goes back a long way.  That is my opinion.  I am entitled to it.

Post # 79
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Blushing bee

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@Atalanta:  of course bouquet tosses have no meaning.  What does have meaning is that a grown woman is placed in the same category as a little girl solely because of her relationship status.  It’s demeaning:(

Post # 80
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@Janielum:  I wasn’t there, but I’d bet the older cousin wasn’t forced to compete with children, as you put it. I’m guessing she stood there on her own accord because she wanted to catch the boquet.

Post # 81
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Payless:  I’m a snarky bitch sometimes, and I would have e-mailed her and said you may have thought you caught the boquet (and rather you ripped it from the hands of a child) but because you are such a bitch I have no hope that they will help you in life because I can’t think of one man on the planet that would marry someone like you.

Ouch, but yeah. She’s an idiot.

Post # 82
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@LittleCricket:  +11111

 

Seriously, I’d feel sad for that woman if that picture wasn’t making me so ragey.  Ugh. 

Post # 83
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Helper bee

Regardless of right or wrong, there are grown women arguing over a bouquet. Was the cousin in the wrong? Absolutely. Is there a need to argue over a bunch of flowers? Nope.

Post # 84
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Children shouldn’t normally be in a bouquet toss (from my area anyway it doesn’t happen)….the person who catches the bouquet gets a garter put on their leg by the garter cacthing guy…. therefore, would be totally awkward.

Still don’t see how it justifies your cousin doing this, especially if it is the norm to have kids catch the bouquet..

Post # 85
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Janielum:  

 

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@shortie1848:  !+ right?  I thought the game was voluntary.

Post # 86
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Blushing bee

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@Atalanta:  lol, I’ve been in my fair share of bouquet tosses and not a single one was voluntary, more like literally having my arms pulled.  everyone’s experience is different, I guess.

Post # 87
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@Janielum:  

“You’re the one that sounds like the bully.  And then you complain about her online to a bunch of happily coupled women who agree that she’s too awful to ever get married (when lets face it half of them were lucky to find the one guy that could tolerate them).”

Are you seriously calling the OP the bully in this situation?

Then following it up by claiming that half of the women and men on this site are essentially insufferable people, and “lucky” to have found a partner that can “tolerate” them? 

That seems awfully hypocritical to me.

Post # 88
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Blushing bee

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@_chelsbelles:  okay, this is my last comment because I have a meeting in ten.  My view is that the OP is making a mountain out of a molehill.  She just got married, is supposedly happy, etc.  Her 8 year old sister does not care.  She is too young to have put much thought into any of this.  The cousin, on the other hand, is probably really upset about her personal life.  I’m saying this because of her crazy response to the situation.  If someone I supposedly cared about acted in this manner, I would feel compassion for her sadness.  the last thing I would do was make fun of her on an anonymous board.

 

as for putting down half the women here, it drives me nuts when anyone says that a woman is single because her personality sucks.  I know lots of coupled women with awful personalities and lots of amazing single women.  Being lucky enough to meet a good partner is just that: luck.  it annoys me when people attribute it to anything else.   What upsets me the most is seeing people malign single woman just because they are single and especially if they are upset about being single.  That is just plain mean and there but for the grace of god we can all end up single and alone.  

 

Post # 89
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

With an attitude like that no amount of bouqet-catching will help her get married sooner!

 

Post # 90
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I caught a bouquet when I was 20 after a little cousin (6yo?) of the bride made it clear she really wanted it, so after I caught it, I handed it to her and it made her night. The three of us got the cutest picture with the bride. I don’t understand why women fight for it. It’s not like you are ACTUALLY the next one to get married. Try being a kind and thoughtful person, and maybe that will get a man to marry you.

Sheesh!

Post # 91
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am shocked– SHOCKED– that this gem of a lady is still single. (Insert world’s most exaggerated eye roll here)

This is why I have no intention of doing the bouquet toss. Most of my single cousins are happily single and plan to remain so and therefore hate this spectacle. The few that would want it seem to believe that it actually determines something and will act crazy. I’m either keeping it or just handing it to my cousin who has been with her awesome bf for five years. 

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