(Closed) just need to vent…too much on my plate right now…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m very sorry for your situation. You have a right to be frustrated, but don’t let it get you down!  You have a wonderful man to marry, wonderful children…  Those are permanent.  These situations… they’re temporary.  You sound like you have a head on your shoulders and are resourceful – when you get down, remember that it’s qualities like these that will get you into a better place 🙂

If I may make a suggestion – I know it may not be the Miss Etiquette thing to do, but just something to take some ease off your already stressful situation.  You can have your parents’ or your husbands’ parents address on the STD’s and invitations, and they can bulk mail the RSVPs once you have an address.

Another option, although if money is tight not the most ideal, is to rent a PO Box so that you can manage all the incoming RSVP’s.  The USPS PO box site says the rate varies by size, but I’m sure you won’t need a large one and will only use it up until your wedding, so maybe a 5-6 month cost at most.

Best of luck with everything – I’m rootin’ for ya!


Post # 4
122 posts
Blushing bee

Big Hugs so sorry your going through all this x

Post # 6
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

*hugs* I have no idea what you’re going through, but my thoughts are with you. This has gotta be so rough. Is there a friend or family member whose address you can use for your RSVPs, or the suggestion of a po box? A very good friend of mine uses a po box still – she originally got it when she was “transient” (essentially couch surfing until she could afford an apartment again – she is a disabled veteran. She lived with one person for a few months, and then on to the next). If ever she gets a package too big for her box (its the smallest or second smallest), they drop a note and she picks it up when she can.

Post # 7
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@farmgirlnfarmboy:  ((((hugs))))

I totally understand how you feel- I have having lots and lots of crazy things happening in my life right now too (many great but still stressful) and it can detract from just being able to relax and enjoy the wedding planning process. 


If PO Boxes are too expensive, can you use you Maid/Matron of Honor or Best Man’s address as a return addy? 


Regarding the landlady- she sounds like a real doozy!  Have you and your hubby to be sit down with her and have a polite but candid conversation?  She can’t just push y’all out!


Hang in there!


Post # 8
341 posts
Helper bee

You could have online RSVP for those on your list who are more tech-savvy and then for anyone without a computer/tech skills you could use your parents or his parents address for them to RSVP to. That way you’ll save $$ on stamps, there are tons of free wedding websites out there.

I’m having a sh*t time right now too, going thru a major betrayal by my parents, have an MIA Maid/Matron of Honor, Fiance who thinks bouquets and flowers in general are frivolous, a deposit date at our venue that’s off by 2 months and bank accounts that are dwindling quickly. Plus my parents (tho I’m not exactly talking to them) are in Mexico where a man from our province was just in the news for almost drowning. 

GAH! Anyway, my point is, you are definetly not alone and if you need to talk/vent/rant, PM me! I totally understand.

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