Post # 1
I don’t even know where to start, but our wedding is in like 31 days and where I can’t wait to marry my fiance the wedding part is all falling apart! We both have very selfish families that are not involved in our lives at all and we live a long ways from both of them so we don’t have any friends or family near. Because of all my medical problems and such we don’t have any money so we have had to forgo the dream wedding idea and are trying to make it a special day for us. We have found a really neat place to get married that is a little western b&b and a photographer offered to do our pics for free, which was an answer to prayers:) The only things left we really wanted were to look nice of course, for me to have a “real” wedding dress, and to just have a few friends come and be with us. But with me getting sicker all the time, we have had to put the money towards saving for doctor visits and such.
To be honest I am crying to hard to even write this right now, I will just list what has gone wrong
I found a dress on craigslist. Mori lee 2105 gorgeous and the lady was nice enough to sell it to me for $60 with a little staining on the underneath, but got it today and staining all over dress and small tear in back. Don’t have the money to get it dry cleaned and not sure it would even come out
then my beautifull ring was sent to get put together and today got it back and it is stunning but doesn’t fit!! Thanks to lots of weight gain and swelling thanks to no thyroid and can’t get medications right
then we just started a new church recently we loved and then the pastor told my fiance he shouldn’t marry me because I was divorced and that would make him an adulterer. What happen to being forgiven???
Then all our friends that were going to come are saying they can’t make it and for reason such as we are going to mexico in februray so we need to save money, and our other friends are having a cookout that weekend and it is closer:(
Not to menchin just working my butt off and eating good and such and still gaining weight. I have never weighed so much in my life and it doesn’t matter what I do I can’t loose weight:(
I am sorry this is just a rant and a vent, but I am soooooooooo hurt and sad right now. 🙁
I know I should just be so lucky as to be getting to marry my awesome finace, but it is hard. I wanted more than anything to atleast have a beautifull dress to wear for him and for us to have awesome wedding pictures to remember the day! I am sure the LORD will work it out, it is just sooooo hard right now:(
Post # 3
Can you tell what kind of stains are on the dress? It may help figure out if there’s a way to get them out.
Does your ring fit your pinky finger? Perhaps if it’s weight gain that is temporary – due to medicine or stress, it won’t be worth it to have it resized. And maybe just get a cheaper sterling silver one for temporary for your ring finger,
Sorry things are so frustrating right now when all you want to do is have a beautiful celebration of a great couple. But honestly, I’d rather go to a wedding that’s homey where there’s real genuine love than a super fancy shindig where you feel like all they wanted was a wedding. Try and stay positive even with the world crumbling, it sounds like you have a relationship worth celebrating.
Post # 4
thanks bvig. yes our relationship is awesome and I am soooo lucky to have him, It is just everything all at once just got me frustrated. I know it isn’t about the day and it being fancy, and believe me ours is not fancy it is definetly the homey type, which is way more than fine for me, but I just wanted to look beautifull for him sooooooooo very much. Oh well whatever happens will happen, atleast we will be husand and wife:) That is what counts in the end anyways:)
Post # 5
I am sure your weight will return to normal once your thyroid medication kicks in, so I would hold off from resizing it only to have to resize it again. You could put it on your pinkie, or borrow one that fits for the ceremony?
Can you go to the dry cleaner and ask if the stain will come out? Get an estimate of the cleaning costs, and I will chip in. I feel terrible that you will not have dress on your special day; that breaks my heart. PM your address, and I will send you a check.
As for the friends that can’t attend, the most important person, your Fiance, will be there and that’s all that matters.
Post # 6
omg about that pastor! Some nerve he has. *hugs*
I’m sure your weight will be normal again once your body gets used to the meds. That happened to a friend of mine and she is back to how she was before. Just took a bit. That’s all.
Could you use a fake for the ceremony? Or maybe use another figer or even have him put it on a necklace or something?
Post # 7
Thank you for the hugs and support. It means a lot to me:) Oh and MsMarch2010 THANK YOU SOOOOOOO much for your offer, that is soooooo kind. Can’t even begin to tell you what it ment! You are way to kind and it really made me feel like someone cared.
Ya the ring fit last week so I think it is just swelling but still hopeing it will fit that day especially for pictures. Maybe a lot of ice before the ceremony:) Might have to do my whole body to fit in this dress to.
Just thanks for taking the time to care. It is hard doing this all on my own.
Post # 8
I think she gave you some good advice regarding the ring. I would go to a dry cleaners and see if they can help with the stains and tear. I would also disregard the pastor’s comment. My brother and my now SIL went thru the marriage class at church and they told them they couldn’t live together. They kindly told them they had no choice but to live together but that they respected their views. They still attend the church and are now married. No hard feelings. The part that bothers me are your friends. I can’t believe they’d pick a cook-out over someones wedding. I would have to let them know that I am disappointed in their decision. But then I would say their loss… and invite someone else instead!
Cheer up this will all be here soon and you’ll have a blast on your big day!
Post # 9
Ya I guess I should be honest with myself and say they probably aren’t truly friends. They only do what is convenient for them at all times. We moved a few months back a couple hours away but they have all come camping within about 20 miles of us but never could come out and see the ranch we live on cause they just didn’t have time. So honestly they are more aquaintences you would say I guess. Whoever is there is there, I want the people that truly love us there anyways:)
I am going to call a few dry cleaners and get quotes, but we are 2 1/2 hours to the closest town with a dry cleaners and we really didn’t even have the money for a dress so I am not sure what I will do, I just may wear it stains and all:) Hey atleast I won’t have to worry that way if I spill:)
Thank you everyone for your kindness, means a lot!!!
Post # 10
Is there any way to make “pick ups” to hide the stains? A friend of mine got married in a dress that was brand new . . . but somehow right before she was supposed to put it on for her wedding, it was covered in black spots. We pinned the dress in some spots to look like natural folds in the dress and used powder stain remover to try to cover up the stains. After the wedding, we asked other guests (girls of course who were close friends) if they noticed. No one did! They were all focued on the joy in her face, not in the bottom of her dress.
Take a deep breath! You’ll be a beautiful bride.
Post # 11
that is a good idea, I just may see, I am not sure if I can do pick ups with that kind of material, but we will see. My ultimate dream dress was I wanted a pick-up ball gown dress. My favorite was Maggie Sottero “Brielle” But I knew I would have to be more realisitic than that:) So who knows maybe that would help:)
Post # 12
Ok so I called the only dry cleaner in the town. That should tell you we live prity remote when you have to drive 2 1/2 hours to a big city and only one dry cleaner. But she said starting price for dresses was $78 and that is just washing. She said she would have to see the dress to give an exact quote on cleaning and pressing and seeing if she can even get the stains out. So she said it would probably be anywhere from $110-$120 and possibly more depending on the staining. So now my $60.00 dress would be closer to $200 and then if you add the gas or shipping it is more. So I could have bought a dress in the style I actually liked. But I didn’t do that in the first place because I couldn’t afford a $250 dollar dress.
Well I am going to see what I can do on my own, but if anyone has any other suggestions PLEASE let me know. This is really making me sad. I just want a dress that looks beautifull and I FEEL GOOD IN:) I want to be beautifull for my fiance on our special day. Thanks for all the support and prayers:)
Post # 13
Is there an area on the dress that you could test a stain-remover on? like a layer that isn’t visible when you are wearing it? I would honestly just try some Woolite and make sure it doesn’t ruin the fabric, and then see if it can help remove the stain. It is the most gentle detergent out there! Otherwise, you could also try the same with a stain remover like Shout. I know this all feels impossible now, but I have been very impressed at how easily stains that looked impossible have come out of some of my clothes!
Good luck with everything! I know it will all work out!
Post # 14
try some oxiclean! I bet you could get it relatively clean on your own! And I doubt anybody will really think much of it. Could you dye the dress in a bucket outside? Sounds silly and risky but i bet it could be done. perhaps you’d like a soft pale gold or something? =]
Post # 15
There are some online tutorials on cleaning your dress yourself in the washer. I’d check into that before anything else.