Post # 1
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Busy bee
Is anyone else indecisive and constantly changing their mind about things?
My ERing is exactly what I asked for – 1ct Princess solitaire. I wanted something I’d never had before and I had a cluster in yellow gold (marquise shaped) and a 3 stone with two blingy bands on each side before. This was simple, classic and perfect.
I got antsy about it – should I have spent that much, I could have gotten something smaller with a halo and it would have looked bigger, I could have this, I could have that. I changed the setting to kite set thinking it would be “new” to me and satisfy me for a while… nope.
He’s been talking since the beginning about having a wrap for it as my wedding ring but at the time we were broke from buying the ERing itself so we went for a cheapie and I’ve been shopping for a wrap (or 2 bands) ever since. I keep going back and forth about which one I want on different days. Blingy vs. Shiny (those are different to me… sparkly prong set diamonds vs. shiny that has more metal surface) and I’m afraid he’s going to “surprise” me and buy one of them and I’m going to LOVE it………. for a month.
Just FYI – I’m also the girl who rearranges the furniture once a month, takes back about 75% of the clothes I buy before I ever wear them because I decide against them even after trying them on in the store. I’ve changed cars (bouncing from car to suv and back because I can’t decide on gas mileage or space) about 5 times in 5 years… it’s NOT just about the ring.
I LOVE this man and this ring and I LOVE what this ring stands for… I’m not bored with the fella by ANY means – but I’m bored with the bling!
Any suggestions???????
Post # 3
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11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Haha, I love my ring to pieces, but I totally want a radiant cut stone. We’ve discussed swapping the stone out since a new one with much better specs wouldn’t be that expensive, but it’s not really a priority.
Post # 4
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2050 posts
Buzzing bee
I’m just like that. Clothes, cars, phones, and my ring. I’ve changed my ring like 3 times already…and am planning to again in the future as well. It’s a sensitive topic on the bee, as some are against changing your e-ring and some are for it. I personally think if you don’t like it, even if you did for a while and just want something else….change it if your FI/DH is okay with it!
Post # 5
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718 posts
Busy bee
Have you thought about getting a few thing stacking bands in different metals and patterns to “switch” things up a bit when the mood hits you?
Post # 6
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630 posts
Busy bee
@lizardloo: I actually thought about starting a RH stack to try and express my creativity! LOL.
I have been wanting a nice daily-wear RHR (I had one that my ex gave me and I loved it… just a little gold/diamond waterfall style ring), so I started thinking that maybe instead of a similar RHR I could just start a stack… then Darling Husband could get me random pretty stackables for different gifts (birthday/Christmas/anniversary) and I could change up as many/few as I wanted and it would take my focus off constantly thinking of changing my Wedding set!
But probably not……… 🙂
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@heathuhhhhwebbbb: the probem is that I DO like it… I just get bored sometimes and want to “play around” with it. The issue with that is that by changing it – I can’t have the original back if I don’t like it! HA!
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
I don’t tend to change my mind (which has its benefits and drawbacks). It would be a real stretch to say I’m “super easy to please!”
I am very opinionated…and stubborn. The upside of this is when I like something, I tend to always like it. I’m decisive and committed. The downside is that when something offends me etc., I don’t tend to change my mind about that either (it’s possible to change it but only with logic, not with an irrational emotional plea, for example). My strong personality is not for everyone. My Fiance can handle it because he actually likes that it is “challenging but possible” to do things to my standards (his perspective is that this brings out the best in him), but a lot of other people are like, “why can’t your standards be flexible and looser for your friends/self than strangers/rivals?” Meh, they just can’t, and actually, the closer I feel to a person, the higher my standards for them are (meaning my very highest expectations are on myself). Anyway, a lot of people don’t like it.
So, while I don’t have any interest in changing my ring, ever, so that’s nice and simple …it’s hardly like my personality doesn’t present itself as challenging in its own ways either. There’s good and bad sides to every way of being.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@joya_aspera: Stubborn describes me as well! I’m also quite opinionated and come across as harsh to people who don’t know me very well… which sometimes is a blessing in itself because it weeds out the ones who don’t care enough to find out more about me and stops me from wasting the time trying! I relate very well to being decisive and committed about most things, I think with my jewelry/clothes/furniture/even my car – I don’t feel like those are major issues. (I know some will say my rings are major and I agree to a point – what they stand for is important, but jewelry is jewelry. I’d be no less married if I were someone who chose NO ring at all.)
I think for me those things are a way of expressing my creativity or artistic side. They are things that changing is just about variety of the asthetic and not a changing of character.
Maybe I should take up painting…LOL!
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@MrsMc77: I get that and I totally have that too with my clothes, other rings (cocktail rings) and nail polish, etc. Different -sometimes radically different- styles depending on my mood. Love them all but would never wear them all at the same time.
I guess maybe the diff is that I have a select few items I see more for their symbolism and not so much their specific style. The engagement ring and some family heirlooms mostly, and I expect the wedding band would be the same. They look how they look… I get used to that look. Kinda like how I have brown eyes. I probably woud have chosen purple eyes if I had had the option, though today maybe I would feel more in the mood for green… but brown is what they are and I’m used to that and identify with that, so I’m happy with them and don’t want purple or green contacts. But purple or green nail polish on the other hand… KWIM?
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
no, well, kinda. i am like that up until i finally make the decision. then after that, im happy. i go back and forth, back and forth, until i finally rule out every option except the perfect one. then, i have no reasons to change my mind. this happened with invites, the dress, the photographer, the venue, wedding bands, my cell phone, my car, what i named my cat….u name it, and ive been in a twist about it.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@joya_aspera: Makes total sense to me! (I have green eyes and I’d totally choose PURPLE!!! Oddly enough I can’t stand colored nail polish on my fingers, it’s ALWAYS french – with the occasional design on one finger – but no colored polish at all!)
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@MrsMc77: I know I’ve seen some people here on the bee that have a stack with their engagement/wedding rings. There is one with a thin rose gold band and a few silvers. It looks so pretty since they’re thin and delicate.
Either way, it’s your ring! If your husband doesn’t mind…no harm no foul!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I know what I want 99% of the time, but thanksfully left the ring up to Fiance. If he asked me to choose, I probably wouldn’t be able to. I love my e ring but am totally open to getting more right hand rings though 🙂
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
I didn’t vote, because I wouldn’t say I’m super easy to please, but once I decide I like something, I’m a very set-in-my-ways kind of girl.
I don’t have an e-ring yet, but I have four other rings (three RHR, one on my left hand middle finger) that I’ve been wearing for years. One for 7 years, one for 6 years, one for 4 years and one for 2.5 years (that replaced an 8 year ring). So once I like something, it’s pretty much there for good!
