- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Why can’t I be like other engaged women who enjoy planning their wedding and look forward to the big day? I just stress out and get depressed every time I try.
It’s both our second (and last) marriage and we have six kids (mostly teens) between the two of us. We have a lot of debt and have two of our teens graduating this coming year and entering college with three still in school. Life is too expensive and we’re barely making ends meet since he has a lot of medical debt (diabetes) and I’m still trying to pay off my lawyer. I hate debt and don’t want to add more to it at this point but we’ve been together for four years, talking about marriage for almost two years and he FINALLY proposed…yay me! I don’t want to wait any longer to become his wife. My dilemma? I’d like it as inexpensive as can be with just our closest friends and family at the ceremony (I don’t have a close family and neither of us has many close friends). He’s good with that, but he wants a big shindig afterwards where we invite everyone. That, to me, equals…DEBT! I hate to be the reasonable one and rain on his parade because he’s so excited about marrying me and giving me “the wedding I deserve” and to be honest I had a beautiful outdoor venue picked that comes with an awesome photographer but I’ve even talked myself out of that because of money.
I’m lost, depressed and hate even mentioning the wedding to him again because I feel like I’m bringing him down.