(Closed) Just not feeling it right now….

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry you’re hurting and not feeling supported 🙁

To me, it seems that the fiance should share in the expenses of the wedding for his future bride, even if he doesn’t see the importance of it right now..it’s important to her

Post # 4
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344 posts
Helper bee

IMO, the wedding issue is just the symptom of other underlying issues.

Your other thread was full of red flags.

HUGS

Post # 5
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why are you talking to her about what he ants instead of him?

Marriage is about communication. If you want this to work, you need to be able to talk it through with him instead of asking a good mutual friend to read his mind. You’re getting yourself worked up without even knowing what he really thinks or feels.

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You could always have a beautiful small wedding! Something low budget, with close family and friends. Keeping the wedding intimate, and only inviting those who will always be there is something you will always treasure. Make the wedding about you and your fiance’s love for eachother, not all the small details like food and decorations 🙂 Don’t let wedding stress get in your way from enjoying your engagement. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is there any way you could compromise and meet in the middle? Marriage is all about compromise. You want a big wedding, he wants a backyard BBQ – maybe a small barn wedding?

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Please re-read what you wrote

” It seems like if something doesn’t matter to him then it doesn’t matter at all. “

You deserve better than this. It sounds like he only thinks of himself and that is not a good recipe for a happy marriage.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Maybe it’s time to postpone the wedding. Not cancel, not skip the whole idea of marriage, but put if off for a while. You two need to workout some issues, and it seems like the wedding, rather than uniting you two as a team, is begcoming a dividing point. Keep working on the issues in your couples counseling sessions, and hopefully you two can get back to a point where the wedding is on the table again. Hugs

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree with postponing and working through all these issues.  Read your previous posts like an outsider.

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