Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are far into engagment talk and we plan to get engaged as a mutal decision. We are both for the traditional engament, too, so he will be givin gme a ring in early October, with plans to marry late September of 2014.
He emailed me a ring idea, which was great because it was much like my secret pintrest loves.
But other than that I have no interest in ring shopping. It’s up to him. I don’t really want to have anything to do with it. I see it as a gift…and I’m not really into picking my own gifts (which comes from dislikes of my family where they make wishlists rather than be ok with whatever you get them)
His “we’d better look” deadline is comming up in August. I have told him I’m ok with what he picked or anything he would pick. I’m not a jewelry person, and the only jewelry I wear is a neclace he gave me a month ago. I will wear it because I love him, not because I love bling. As it is, we are doing gemstone, not diamond.
I have no ulterier motive, no doubts, no lingering fears…I just have no desire to go ring shopping.
Anyone else feel this way?
Post # 3
I was like that too. Obviously I wanted a ring but that’s about where it ended. I wanted him to pick it and I wanted him to love it more than anything. We talked and he gave me three different size/price points (clarity and colour were non-negotiables with him, he already had those picked out) so I picked which size I wanted and went from there. I’m just not one of those girls who dreamt of their engagement ring and I have always seen it as something the man should pick.
Post # 4
@searock: I LOVE that DH picked my ring with no help! He did an AMAZING job!
Post # 5
My ring story is a little different because I thought I was going to inherit a ring, and we found out that I wasn’t shortly before he wanted to propose with it.
So we did go ring shopping last minute just so I could get ideas. In the end, he went by himself (well with his mom) and picked out something similar to what I liked in the store.
My best friend didn’t pick it out. I think she told him what kind of metal she liked and what shape diamond.
Post # 6
I enjoyed picking all our rings together, but there’s obviously no one size fits all scenario that works for everyone. If you really want it to be a surprise, I think he should do his best to surprise you.
Post # 7
I think it is a wonderful way to feel!!!!! I envy you a bit 😉
You definitely have to post whatever you end up with!!!!
Post # 8
this is what he suggested….I think it’s WAY enough and gorgeous….no need to look further
Post # 9
not so much a surprize….just happy if he would go with what his “initial idea” was…no need to look more
Post # 11
oh hey! that’s basically my ring! mine just doesn’t have the sidestones in a bezel setting. It’s a purple sapphire, and I adore it!
Post # 12
amethest….as i like purple
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Sapphires come in purple too :). They also hold up better than amethysts over a lifetime.
Post # 14
@searock: i didn’t go ring shopping and didn’t miss the experience. i did look at a few pictures online and gave my Fiance an idea of what i liked. he designed the ring himself and surprised me with it.
Post # 15
I wanted to be surprised so much – however, my BF didn’t feel comfortable making a “forever” decision like that on his own. He did want the entire engagement process to be a surprise though, so I went shopping with a friend (per his request) and after trying on lots of different styles, I emailed him the ones I liked best. We have a family stone we are using. We actually don’t even know who it belonged to, so there isn’t a lot of sentimental value there; therefore, we are going to have it reset. I can’t wait to see what he picks out!
Post # 16
@searock: I’m the complete opposite lol; I’m one of those people who makes gift lists, so you’d hate me! I’m just very fussy and particular about certain things.
I do however think it’s great to be so easy-going, and sometimes wish I was.