- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have to wonder if I’m missing some gene that makes weddings worth the hassel. My career is already in a field that is maybe 10% and my agency is even more male dominated than the rest, so I have to wonder if I really am just an oddball. I’ve never dreamed of a wedding, or even eloping, I’m only doing a wedding as my family wants a reason to come down and party in my city for a few days. I view marriage as a legal contract, so being married in a church/chapel just escapes me. A courthouse ceremony has been nixed only because my dad would really appreciate walking me down a short aisle. The family is willing to fund a 25-35k wedding and I feel obligated to do so.
The downside is I have to plan a party now and I have neither the time nor the desire. Right now I’m the newest person in my office with no time off and trying to fix up a beautiful house while we have houseguests more weekends than not. I’m tired and can’t even take time off after the wedding for a honeymoon, let alone more than a long weekend. I’m also an introvert in an extravert job, coupled with constant activities with other, I’m exhausted daily. We’re also moving into the active season for my job, so I can expect multiple days a week of 12+ hours until after the wedding. I’ve asked my mom to plan something everyone would enjoy but my mom did not have the wedding she wanted because her parents planned a huge event and she swore she would not do that with me. Whenever I beg her to just plan something the family would like (and I’d probably enjoy anyways), she refuses and then I ask my best friend. She says she wants to and will, but then won’t do any of the leg work. I’ve already gotten into multiple arguments with my mom refusing to help and tells me to suffer thru it and my best friend saying to plan a wedding she’d like to attend. I really just want to show up to a party, sign the contract, and have some fun before its back to work and fixing up the house.