Just out of curiosity

posted 7 months ago in Traditions
Post # 2
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m not going to. If you get anxious and don’t sleep well, it doesnt sound like a good idea. You want to be well rested! Plus, you’ll be separate for all the getting ready parts anyways. I’m looking forward to seeing him in the AM, maybe even having breakfast together and then going our separate ways until the first look.

Post # 3
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We’re traditionalists, so we’re in seperate hotel rooms the night before. Whenever I travel for work, the only way to comfort myself without fiance sleeping by me is to make a giant pillow fort on the hotel bed. The night before races (I’m a runner) I usually take a sleeping pill to ensure I get the necessary sleep. I’ll probably do that just to be sure I’m not tossing and turning. 

Post # 4
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

DH was in a hotel room, I was in my parent’s guest room (which was my old bedroom)

Didn’t sleep that great, but I never normally sleep through the night so it was just typical of me

Post # 5
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We’ve been together since December 2013, lived together since September 2014, got engaged in July of 2015 and haven’t spent a night apart since we moved in together. We’re both traditional and I will be spending the night at my parents but my BM from a few hours away will be spending the night with me so she doesn’t have to get up too early and because I will probably need company. Not sure how I’m going to handle a night alone lol. 

Post # 6
5861 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

victoriad :  we stayed in separate rooms and slept fine, but, we’re pretty used to time apart one one of us is away with friends. If you find it difficult to sleep without your OH then honestly I would just share a room; it will be a long day and you want to make sure you get enough sleep. You can then go into separate rooms in the morning. 

Post # 7
5768 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park

He stayed the night with the BM. I took our house.

Post # 8
1168 posts
Bumble bee

victoriad :  I’m still waiting, but we’re not going to sleep separately the night before. We’re also going to be walking in and out of the ceremony together, so the whole “watching me walk down the aisle” thing is out too, lol.

Post # 9
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Originally we were going to sleep separate but then things happened and we didn’t need to anymore so he stayed with me once we parted ways after breakfast we didnt see each other again until the first look.

Post # 10
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We stayed together in the same hotel room. We both sleep better that way. My DH has two daughters and they were there with us as well. We went to breakfast the morning of our wedding and then I showered and went to another room to get ready.

Post # 11
1677 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Our plan is to spend the night apart. We aren’t traditional at all. But it will make it that much better when we see each other at the first look. 

Post # 12
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

In the same house but I slept in the second bedroom because DH moves so much in his sleep and wakes me! We had a quick breakfast together then he left to go to his best man’s house to get ready. I’m an insomniac but had a surprisingly good nights sleep.

Post # 13
6920 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We did sleep apart. He slept at his parent’s house and I slept at the apartment. But only because my MOH and another good friend were staying with me at the apartment and my husband thought he’d let us make a girl’s night out of it.

Post # 14
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We had lived together for several years, but still slept apart on the night before.  I actually loved it!  He stayed at our place with his brother and a GM and I stayed in my old bedroom in my childhood home.  After the rehearsal dinner, I ended up staying up for a while with my mom, sister, and aunt and drank some wine and laughed and reminisced about growing up in the house.  I slept well, thanks to the wine, and it turns out that that would be the last night I would ever spend in that house because my parents sold it not long after when they retired.  I like having that memory of that last night being the night before my wedding day.  

Post # 15
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

victoriad :  We slept apart because we were getting married in our hometown (which is about 8hrs from where we lived at the time). My parents–DAD–was super weird about us staying together before marriage, so we knew if we both stayed at their house we couldn’t sleep in the same room/bed anyway which would have put DH on the couch (his parents live an hour away). That seemed unfair.

So I stayed at my parents’ house and had a girls night with my mom and sister and other MOH, and DH stayed in our honeymoon suite at the hotel. It was actually a real treat for him, getting to unwind, have some down time after such a long drive and a week’s worth of family visits, Thanksgiving, rehearsal/rehearsal dinner, etc. Plus, he was able to bring all our stuff to the room so after the wedding everything was there, we were checked in, etc.

If we’d gotten married somewhere local to us, I think we might have stayed at our own house. It would have been so much easier that way and of course we would have loved to have slept in the same bed the night before…but part of me also knows that my mom/sis/MOH would have begged for a sleepover too. So who knows. 

What I do know is that I was way too excited and wouldn’t have slept even if DH was there. I think I passed out around 2am, and then woke up at 6am and went running before the rest of my crew got up. We had coffee, breakfast, and then got going. Meanwhile…DH slept until 9, haha. 

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