Post # 1
Hi bees, I don’t post too often but I love reading the (positive/helpful) boards. I am just over a week away from the big day and I can feel my anxiety creeping in.
Fiance and I had set a goal to be done with all the little things – ribbon tying, program stuffing, etc. – by this weekend (Sat is our rehearsal dinner) and we did it! As much as I’m glad to not be scrambling, I’m also a little apprehensive about the next week – having too much time on my hands and too much nervous energy!
I also am trying (really I am!) to avoid stalking the weather forecast – it keeps changing dramatically & I know it will for the next week. I also know that the weather is something totally out of our control, but it still isn’t easy to mentally prepare for a rainy cold gloomy day. How do you all reconcile your expectations (hopes! of sunny blue skies) with what may be reality? Not just with weather, how can I slip into chill, normal-person mode – with an attitude of it is what it is – enjoy it!
I certainly have been involved in every aspect of our wedding – type A to the core. So it isn’t easy for me to “let it go” – that’s what Fiance is good at, helping me calm the F down. lol So in an effort to remain as calm as possible on the big day, I’m having a family friend who is a wonderful yoga instructor come do some meditation with the girls and I that morning. Fiance and I are also doing a first look to help ease our (my) nerves and I know seeing him before the ceremony will be precisely what I need. (Plus, we’ll get some pics out of the way, too!)
Sorry this is long, I was just hoping you girls could share your tips and tricks for the days leading up to and including wedding day. Married bees, what helped you make it through the morning without anxiety?
Post # 3
I am very type-A person, always in control of myself & my emotions, and don’t “let go” very easily… BUT- on my wedding day I was surprisingly zen. The only thing that stressed me out leading up to the wedding was his mother! Oh sure, there were plenty of things I could have freaked out over, but for whatever reason, I just had it in my head that the world could be on fire & I’d still be getting married to my best friend. The weather forecast said sunny & 70s …right up until the DAY BEFORE! It rained buckets all day long, and it didn’t bother me one bit. We got married inside and it was still just a lovely as if we’d been able to get married out in the beautiful gardens. The week before my wedding I went in for my final fitting and my dress was too tight! Oh well, whatever, let’s let it back out about an inch. My bustle kept coming undone, but oh well, let’s just put a little stitch through it to keep it up.
The point of my rambling is that if I can relax, anyone can relax!
Oh- a bottle of wine and a bubble bath wouldn’t hurt either.
Post # 4
@DaneLady: thanks! I’m hoping for some out of body, out of character calmness that day, too. thank you for the kind words!
Post # 5
If you can, book a massage for a day or two before the wedding! I have one booked the Wednesday before ours and I’m SO looking forward to relaxing and tuning out the world for 90 minutes. I think it will really put me in the right frame of mind.
I’m also planning to squeeze in a run on the wedding morning. Running is my favorite way to start the day, and I think it will start my day off on the right foot (pun not intended, haha!).
Also, try to remember…you’ve planned this for months and months. You’ve taken care of all of the details already, so that you CAN relax on your wedding day! Take a deep breath and trust in your planning and the people you’ve hired to make your day great.
Post # 6
One of the (very) few things I wish I had done differently at our wedding was ask a family member or friend to be my “hight hand” on the day-of. If you don’t have a day-of coordinator, I would strongly encourage you to find someone close to you and explain all the little details of the wedding to him or her so they can take care of them while you are getting ready and doing bridal stuff.
Don’t pick your bridesmaids or Maid/Matron of Honor (if you have them) as they will be busy with you that day. Sit down with your chosen person and go over every last detail with them so someone else besides you knows how everything is supposed to come together. Have that person arrive early and provide you with updates as needed. They can also help direct people to where they need to go during the event.
I had my sister and cousin sort-of fill this role but I didn’t go over details with them at all. They pretty much had free reign with all the decorations, flowers, tulle, ribbon, candles, etc for the ceremony and reception. They did an amazing job but I was stressed because I didn’t know that they did an awesome job till I walked up the aisle.
And, get yourself a delicious bottle of wine and enjoy a glass or two.