(Closed) Just Ready to Elope

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7652 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You should pay for it yourself if you want it a certain way. If they are paying for most of it then they get a say, your mom included unless you and your dad, who seems a little bit more willing to communicate with your wants, get together and plan it without your mom. I suppose to that may make your mom upset though. If they aren’t chipping in for the tuxs and what not, then stand firm that you want your guys to wear chucks.

Post # 4
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@rainbowdashpony:  I’m not quite in the situation that you are. However, I understand the stress that the family does put on it. This is where I am right now – When push comes to shove, it’s your day. At the end of the day, it’s not about the wedding. It’s about starting a life/family with the one that you love. If you want your guys to wear Chucks, have them wear Chucks. 

I would just sit down with your mom&dad&fiance-be respectful, but explain where your coming from, and why what they want may not be what you want. It might be helpful to have your fiance there for support. 🙂

Also, if you do end up paying for it yourself, there are a lot of resources out there to help you. 

Good luck! If at the end of the day you’re married to the man you love – it all went perfectly. Just saying. 

Post # 6
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

I can relate to this.I accepted money from my future in laws only to be given a list of random strangers to invite, she changed my flower colour scheme, made his dad MC ( OH NO! From both me and fiancee), demanded on family photos mostly with just her son. This lead to me postponing the wedding. We are going to do it again, and this time we are paying, and we are making all the decisions.

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