- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So last night I went over to my parents house to talk about the wedding. I was a little wary of going to begin with because they insisted I come alone, without my finiance. Ummm it is his wedding also, if we are going to discuss wedding things he should be there. I figured it was going to be them ganging up on me trying to make me change my mind about something so I went to put my foot down, this had to stop. So I went and the reason they gave of only wanting me there was because the only opinioned they cared about was mine, they wanted to give me the wedding of my dreams, not my finiance…. well the wedding of my dreams envolves my fiance. Well whatever, what other wedding things do we want to discuss. The budget is getting a little high (yes they have said they would pay), ok well just let me know and we will cover somethings. We are fine to cover something if we really want it and need to pitch in. They said ok and then started to ask what type of ceremony I wanted, we had been planning a formal wedding but I couldn’t have a formal wedding if my groom and groomsman were going to wear chucks to the ceremony. Well I do want a formal ceremony and wedding (apparently I can’t have real silverware and table cloths if they guys wear chucks) and I want my guys to wear chucks…. Yeah I know you are paying but this is my wedding and didn’t you just say you wanted to give me the wedding of my dreams? Well it would just really embarrass my mom if the guest saw my groomsmen in chucks.. really. Any way so I said ok so you don’t want to do that, that is fine I will do it myself, just tell me how much you have spent and I will pay you back and have the wedding of my dreams. I really don’t understand why she wanted to die on this hill but I am just so upset, I just had to stop rolling over and standup for what kind of wedding I wanted. My dad says don’t worry we still want to help you with this so don’t worry and you will get the wedding you want but really I love him to death but my mom wears the pants and she can hold a grudge. I woke up this morning and thought if I started to plan my own wedding I could do what ever I wanted (I mean what ever my finiance would let me do lol, I could go way over the top). All those this I kind of said no to because my mom would just have shot them down with out a second thought, I can do those. Funny note, I came into work this morning and told my Maid/Matron of Honor that what happened and I told her that my Finance and I were going to take over paying for the wedding and she said “about time, I knew her paying was going to be a problem” so even other people knew I shouldn’t have let her help to begin with.
Well sorry this was so long I just wish that actually having my mom help with the planning was not such a pain. I know if you are paying you get a say but you don’t get to tell me that it is what ever you want to make your day special and then tell me I can’t do what I want to do because you don’t like it. I understand if you can’t afford my big day but tell me that and I will help (which I said I would).