(Closed) just really feel super sad and down

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

🙁  I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with those family challenges.  I think around wedding time, family support takes on a whole new level of meaning (as does family stress), and I think there’s a tendency to feel extra hurt/sensative to the sad things.

I hope that you and your aunt find a way to have some open dialogue, so there can be some smoothing over of these challenges.  And from what I’m seeing (or readign rather), you don’t sound like you’ve done anything wrong…so as much as possible, try not to put any blame/sadness on yourself in relation to you. 

Post # 4
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Its amazing how weddings can make all of us and family members act differently than they normally would.  Things become more sensitive, more dramatic, well more everything really.

I am sorry this is happening.  Sounds like you should call her and out right ask her. Tell her that you feel she is trying to avoid her and it is making you sad. Can you she explain to you what you did to upset her.  Try not to be accusatory and then once you pose the question just remain silent so she has to respond.  Silence is awkward and likely she will come back with something (even if its denying it).  If she does deny it, it may be enough to help her realize she is acting more obvious than she realized. Or it may give you a chance to talk it out.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

There’s a few things in life in I know are true: when it rains it pours, people don’t always get what they deserve good or bad, and while families are wonderful they are also the most stressful sometimes. We all go through times like this, and it’s never easy. But especially when there is a wedding it makes it even more difficult. In time perhaps whats really bothering Aunt F will present itself. And hopefully Aunt E will come around and your relationship will be as good as it ever was. I do believe this won’t last forever, and in time hearts will heal. I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now.

But remember, do what’s best for you and your new to be husband. In the end you have a new family that you’re about to embark on and getting it off to a good start is the best gift you can give to yourselves. Rely on him in times like this, maybe this can be something that can help you two to grow even closer!! Silver lining to the cloud if you will. Either way, hang in there. Everything will be alright.

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