(Closed) just recieved an invite for a friends weddding…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Holy crap, that’s early!  Maybe she’s just excited.  🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe she has a lot of people traveling far distances? Does seem early though – esp. if she sent Save-The-Date Cards…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

 Wow! I honestly think that people who do that think that their wedding is going to be the highlite of everyones year. I mean common, whos actually gonna remember on Aug 1. OH! I have to send in that RSVP right away!!!

  But I am the girl who sent out her invites wayyy to late! lol

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OH wow that is really early! honestly i would forget if i got it that early. heck to remember i would mail it off now lol

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow, that’s crazy early! You’re right, she does need the bee.

The only time I have heard of anyone sending their invitations out this early is for a friend’s wedding where half of the guests lived in India and Europe.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s crazy early. We sent our invites out a couple weeks early but some of my family have said they can’t make it because they had already RSVP’d (a month prior) to another wedding on the same day!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m going to play Devils Advocate, and say that I don’t think that it’s unreasonable. I’ve seen a few calendars that suggest that you send out invites around 4 months in advance. And, if your friend has a lot of family travelling a long distance, they will probably want the extra time to make arrangements, save money for transportation costs, etc.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Maybe its a Bride Wars situation and she’s trying to beat someone else to the punch? Lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So, I will say that I plan on sending out my invitations for my Aug. 1 wedding as soon as I get back to LA, which will be around May 15 or so.  Not QUITE so bad, but I wanted to do this so that I could make sure that I could have an early-ish RSVP deadline and I could know whether I would have space to invite more people whom I would like to invite based on some must-invites declines.  

So, that may not be anything like what she has in mind, but there MAY be a method to her madness, and she’s not just a raving egomaniac.  

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It seems REALLY early to me.  I can understand if they maybe sent them out in June, maybe even May. 

Maybe she has a really big guest list and wants to send out the A list now and the B list a bit closer to the wedding?

I would be really afraid that people can’t accurately RSVP that early.  You may end up wtih a lot of guests that say they can come but then something come up and some that could end up comng last minute.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So, I will say that I plan on sending out my invitations for my Aug. 1 wedding as soon as I get back to LA, which will be around May 15 or so.  Not QUITE so bad, but I wanted to do this so that I could make sure that I could have an early-ish RSVP deadline and I could know whether I would have space to invite more people whom I would like to invite based on some must-invites declines.  

So, that may not be anything like what she has in mind, but there MAY be a method to her madness, and she’s not just a raving egomaniac.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

maybe she was excited and wanted to get them out of the way!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think she may have some legit reasons that maybe you don’t realize.

I’m sending out my invites for my Aug 15th wedding May 15. Why? My biggest room block expires a full 2 months before the wedding and I want to give people time to get their acts together. I also need a count for people who need transportation to the site from the local Metro-North station, and for how many people need Kosher meals. I want to have these counts by June 30, so I can make the final arrangements.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My wedding is in 4 months and my mom thinks I should’ve already sent out the invitations (granted, haven’t even ordered them yet…). The reason is that the wedding is in VA, and I live in MT and my fiance has lots of family out here, but we aren’t sure how many MT folk are coming. So maybe it’d have been helpful if we just did our invites now so we’d know how many to expect, but I’m still working on save-the-dates!!

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