(Closed) just recieved an invite for a friends weddding…

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think it’s early. Actually I think the earlier the better, so people can already plan. I wouldn’t mind if I would get an invitation to a wedding even a year earlier (especially when it’s a destination wedding).

Post # 48
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5592 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I sent a majority of mine out 10 weeks in advance.  I may or may not still be holding onto a few, thinking I could just hand deliver them to my local relatives…  However, I received two invites in February.  One for June 26 and one for July 3rd, with RSVP dates for the beginning of March.  It was hard to give a definite response over four months in advance, but if it works for them, I guess it’s ok.

Post # 49
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736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Almost everyone from my family and friends will be traveling from  out of state and some from over seas so I will be sending my save the dates this October and my invites in July of next year. I dont think what she did was wrong if she has a lot of out of towners  who need to make arrangements and such.

Post # 50
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359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve already sent mine for our September wedding. We have over half our guests travelling from out of town and I wanted to give people the opportunity to search for reasonable flights. Plus, we’re getting married on a long weekend. 

Honestly, I think the standard 4 weeks is too short. Either way, I say good on her for being on the ball! 🙂

Post # 51
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6586 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Its kind of early- but not SOOO early that I’d think too much about it.  I am sending mine out 10 weeks early!

Post # 52
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18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sending out my invitations by the first week of May for an August wedding. Lots of people are from out of town so I want to give them time to plan. Plus, we’re self-catering so I want to know exact numbers of attendees with a reasonable amount of time to plan rentals and shopping lists. And I’m excited! I want to share the excitement with my friends and family. 

ClairDarling, why don’t have some compassion and/or excitement for your friend instead of whining about it on the internet? Is it that important to feel superior? 

09.07.11: totally with you. 

 

Post # 53
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@charmedlife357 – I’m glad someone gets what I’m saying! I didn’t mean to offend anyone, honestly. I’m just saying, don’t we all get enough crap from other people about what and how we should be doing things for our weddings? Do we really need it from other brides? Especially friends? I’m sure the bride in question has her reasons for sending out her invites early and if she doesn’t….does she really need a reason?? 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@09, I wouldn’t have said anything if you had worded it as you just did here. If I were the OP, I would have been offended by what you originally said. I do see your point, that there is a lot of stress to put on the perfect wedding, and that “messing up” if you will, over something like when to send the invites is pretty minor. I just don’t think the OP was meaning to be overly critical… she was just casually posting about something wedding-related that surprised her.

@shirly, is it really that “important” to you to harp on her for this post? You could have left out that statement and still made your point without sounding so abbrasive. :-/

Post # 56
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wedding invites go out 6-10 weeks proior to the wedding.  Just because that early isn’t what YOU need doesn’t mean it isn’t what they need.  Ours are going out in early August for our late October wedding.  We had to do that for our Out of Town guests and travel reasons.  Just because you’re local doesn’t mean everyone else is…..

Post # 57
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Wannabee

Perhaps as August is “prime time” for weddings they wanted friends/family to be able to plan vacations, etc, with their wedding in mind (but I guess that is what STD are for)?!?!

Post # 58
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1557 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Meh, I’ve known people sending their invites out as far as a YEAR in advance, and conversely, I’ve known people who waited until 3weeks before their wedding to send [so guests had less than 2 to rsvp/make travel arrangements].

 

I think it all depends on what the B&G decide is best. A lot of bees make good points about people forgetting to rsvp [or god forbid, losing their invites before then & etc] and these are things that those on weddingbee may find useful when deciding on a timeline for their invites, but what is done is done. She sent them, and that’s that. Whether her rsvps will turn out to be a cluster-cuss [thank you fantastic mr. fox!] or not is yet to be seen.

Post # 59
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m getting married on August 1st, and we are sending out our invites this week…just under 3 months out…and we put our rsvp date for June 1…then I have time for stragglers…Plus like many who have already commented, most of our guests are from out of town.  And honestly, invitations were a hell of a lot of work, so getting them out of the way is AWESOME! Leaves me time to worry and fret about my dress, and flowers, and making sure my wedding party has their attire in order etc…and a whole list of other things I still have to do.

 

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that’s fine.  Who cares?  I think it is good to get people information as soon as possible.  My friend got married out west and there wasn’t enough warning for me to make it. 

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