Post # 1
It seems like I get so caught up in planning my wedding that I’ve forgotten what it’s actually about – my MARRIAGE. We just had a wonderful preliminary ceremony planning/ talk with our pastor (who is just so amazing we are so blessed to have him not only doing our wedding but in our lives in general) and it kind of hit me. This day is not about a gown or a ring. It’s not about the million little details I *need* to be perfect. None of that stuff is going to make my marriage any better, just my wedding. God has a plan for my wedding day, and more importantly what comes after that. I can’t control whether it rains or people dont like my food. Whatever happens, it is going to be perfect.
Post # 4
You’re exactly right! There’s so much focus on the tiniest little details, which isn’t necessarily wrong, but when you start to lose focus of why you’re getting married in the first place, it’s a problem! I had a very similar epiphany about a month ago and posted something almost identical! (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/when-its-all-said-and-done-what-really-matters-to-you#axzz2Mmsqgvjl)
Way to keep things in perspective! This was also a good reminder for me today 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think premarital counseling (whether with a religious leader or a secular therapist/counselor/etc) is really important. So many people skip this becasue they think there is nothign wrong with their relationship, but that’s not what premarital counseling is about… it’s about preparing yourselves to avoid and deal with problems in the future and to openly discuss things that we often jsut assume we have concurrent feeling about and expectations for.
We put so much effort into preparing for the wedding and very little into preparing for the marriage.
Post # 6
Good for you! It’s great when you take a step back and realize that the marriage is more important than the wedding. Great post.
Post # 7
@Weetzie: This is beautifully stated and absolutely the same sentiment I have about my wedding day! However perfect or imperfect it is, I know that God will be at the center of it and at the end of the day I will be married to my best friend/the love of my life!
Thank you for the reminder! 🙂
Also – kinda fun that we’ll be celebrating on the same day!
Post # 9
Ditto…..Why cant we all remember that when we get stress over things that wont change how we feel about our mates. Your pastor put everything in perspective for the true meaning of a marriage.
Post # 10
Absolutely! When people in my/DH’s family were telling us we needed X or Y I just wanted to shout this from the hilltops!