Post # 1
On my Facebook newsfeed I have noticed when someone asks for a favor, namely babysitting their children, people are quick to comment something along the lines of “I would but <fill in reason>”. Rarely does someone jump in and actually want to help out. Why do people bother commenting when they most likely were not going to help out in the first place? This sounds completely random and out of the blue, but this happens so much.
Post # 3
haha i see that a lot with people needing help moving.
Post # 4
@Marriedandlovingit: They don’t want to be left out of the conversation. 🙂
I wouldn’t ask something like that on FB. What if your old HS classmate who you got along with OK, said “oh i’ll do it!” What do you do? “Oh no thanks, I was hoping one of my closer FB friends would do it.” Plus you’re letting people know that you won’t be home.
Post # 5
My cousin who Im not that close with posted that she needed a babysitter and I offered and she accepted. I wouldn’t put “well I would but…” because whats the point??
Post # 6
@Marriedandlovingit: It’s the “the thought counts” brownie points.
Post # 7
@pancakemix: I’ve seen that a few times too, along with needing a drop-off or pick-up from the airport. One of the most common comments I see is, “I would if I didn’t live across the country!”. Well, gee…thanks I guess?
@Rouquine: That makes sense
Post # 8
They need to show you that they are so Important that they know you want to know about their life, regardless of whether or not it effects you.
I see that all the time!
Post # 9
I see this happen all the time and it happens to me all the time.
For example someone who lives across the US Is always saying that she will babysit my kids for me… Ya thats much help…
Post # 10
Sometimes I think people will do it so the person keeps them in mind for next time. The people across the country, I can’t come up with a good reason for that…
ETA: I would never be the poster asking or the random responder:)
Post # 11
I see this all the time. I never really thought anything of it except that some people can be pretty rude in their requests (free babysitter, free ___ at their wedding, free moving help)… I mean, if I’m close I’d refuse to take payment for the smaller jobs, but as the “asker” I’d be embarrassed to ask my friends to do those for free.
As far as the across country thing… I think it’s more of a “wish I were there” sentiment than anything.
Post # 12
I get bugged when people send out the generic “someone help me move” fb requests
“Need a ride to the airport”
Because they are not directed at anyone, and its awkward. I’d rather be asked personally to help move rather than see a generic message. I just don’t want to jump up and volunteer.