Post # 1
So my best friend and I got into a huge fight when I told her I couldn’t afford to fly her AND her husband out for my wedding. I had asked her to be my Matron of Honor a while before and she said yes…well we got into a fight because she flipped out on me for telling her that I could fly her out but not her husband. When she told me she wouldn’t come without him I told her that she could no longer be my Matron of Honor. After an hour or so of horrible name calling (on both parts) we blocked each other from just about everything and stopped talking.
Well…I’m married now and thought we could put all of this behind us so I texted her a few minutes ago. She told me that it can never be the same between us for both of us. I feel like trying to make up was a waste of time. I moved in with my husband and I have no friends in this state. I work from home and we only have one vehicle right now so I’m home all day. I miss my friends. I thought I could talk to the one person that was my friend since the 5th grade, but apparently that isn’t going to happen.
Anyone else go through something like this? My mom has been pushing me to talk to her again and now that I have and now that I’ve gotten this response from her…I wish I’d never done it.
Post # 3
@KT_Hime: I’m sorry that things did not go well with your friend. However, please do not beat yourself up over having contacted her. I think it was good that you did so. You reached out to her. You made the effort. She chose not to accept it.
Whether she realizes this or not, her expectations were unreasonable. If she and her husband could not afford to travel to your wedding, and, if she refused to come without him when you very generously offered to pay for her transportation, she simply could not have served as your matron of honor. You had no responsibility whatsoever to pay for either her ticket or his. The fact that you were willing to pay for hers to allow her to play a very important role in your wedding should have shown her just how important she has been to you.
Regarding your relocation situation, I very much understand. I left a wonderful life, amazing friends, a fantastic church, and a rewarding and lucrative career in a city and state I loved to relocate to a rural area in another state after I married my Darling Husband. I really knew no one other than my Darling Husband and his children, and it has taken me more than three and a half years of living here full time (I was only here for half of every week for almost the first year of our marriage) to feel as if I am finally just starting to have my own life here. I still haven’t been able to find a job in my field — or out of it — in this region.
Things will get better. Hang in there. And, please PM me if you ever need to “talk.” HUGS!
Post # 4
@KT_Hime: Agh, it sounds like you were trying to be nice by offering to fly her out. You didn’t have to pay for her flight at all. Nobody asked me to fly them up for my wedding and there were no hard feeling for those who couldn’t afford to go.
You have plenty of time to make a new friend, so try not to worry about it.