Post # 1
i finished my contract just before our wedding in April and starting looking for a new job in May. I was searching for a permanent role in my field & then I was contacted on linked in about an amazing job I wanted so bad. It’s 20 K more than what I’m currently earning plus 20% bonuses in a new field where my current skills come in handy. Unfortunately the job got put on hold & I told the recruiter to hold my cv in case the job came available again.
in June I accepted a role in my field & I accepted the salary I earned 2 years ago. I was nervous & wanted a permanent job. Thing is I can literally do this job with my eyes shut. I started my new job a week & a half ago & can sense I’ll get bored. I figured this can be a job until we have a baby in the next two years. The job is 10 minutes from home. Also I reckon I could get part time with a baby or work some days at home.
day three into my new job I saw an email from the recruiter about the role I wanted in may. It was now available. I felt like I wanted to cry as I wanted the role but I’m a very loyal person. However I know if it came down to it, the my employer wouldn’t be loyal to me. I agreed to submit the cv.
The next day (Tuesday last week), I secured an interview. I already had a half day yesterday as Darling Husband and I were away so I attended the interview enroute.
The new role is a sales role & I haven’t worked in sales in four years. The interview went really well, was told I’m very confident, I asked all the right questions, we discussed start dates, salary and next steps. I was told that there’s more first interviews next week & then he is conducting second interviews. As I shook his hand and left he said “see you soon”. That implies a second interview.
so help! My moral compass is pulling me in all directions. I’d feel bad leaving. Like so bad but hey it’s not like I was searching still & who could blame me. The new job is way better money, a challenge but 40 minutes probably in traffic vs the 10 min with my current job. If I leave my current job, it could blacklist me from that industry – it’s a small industry & everyone knows everyone.
Also if I get the new job, what do I tell my current boss?
Post # 2
Worry about it when you get offered the new job.
As for what to tell your current boss, explain that you unexpectedly heard back on a role that is better fit for you, and that you wish them all the best.
Post # 4
…Why would you be blacklisted from an entire industry just for accepting a better job offer? Lol that’s a little extreme, business is business, these things literally happen all the time. Just be gracious and give proper notice, you’ll be fine.
Post # 5
Maybe I’m cold hearted but I do what is best for me and worry about everyone else later (career wise lol). Your situation is what notices were created for. If you are offered the new position, take it. Give your employer a 2 week notice (can even be longer if you are feeling generous) and do what is best for you.
Post # 6
missviolet92 : Why would it blacklist you from the industry? People’s plans change all the time. You are allowed to leave a job for a better opportunity, and you should do what is best for you.
If you want to be very courteous about it, I’d say give them enough advance notice to be able to hire someone else to replace you. I know that lots of people will say “give 2 weeks notice” and that may be fine, but I think it’s more courteous to give enough notice to tie up your affairs before you go.
My job is complicated and I know that my boss would want me to spend some time training whoever was replacing me, so ideally I’d give about 2 months notice, if that was possible. Most people would probably think it’s awkward to give so much notice, but I know that this would allow me to leave my job in a respectful fashion. I’m definitely NOT saying that you should give such a long notice–just that this seems to be ideal in my lab.
Essentially, if you want to leave on a good note and are able to, give enough notice so you can tie everything up before you go. I assume that this would be 2-4 weeks for most jobs.
Post # 7
Girl, $20K is $20K. If they want to keep employees they should pay better. At the end of the day you have to do what’s best for your family, which probably includes making more money. Anyone who blames you for that is crazy. Your boss would probably do the same thing in your position.
Post # 8
Just go on any second interviews and if you get offered the position you have to do what’s best for you. 20,000 more is a big difference. When it comes to jobs, you have to look out for yourself honestly.
Post # 9
I am in the same exact situation….but my ultimate worry is what “excuse” to give my new job when going on the second interview….just so awkward!
Post # 10
holisticbabe : yeah I have to think of an excuse too for a two hour lunch break! Like I said this other employer is miles away. Probably say I have an appointment. Best of luck!!
Post # 11
What I mean by blacklisted is in my industry people move around a lot. I work for the biggest firm of our industry in this country.
Anyway thank you all for the feedback. If I get offered the role I’ll take it. Got to look after yourself in this day and age.
Post # 12
In a way it’s better now than if it had happened in a couple of months. You were job hunting, you apply for a bunch of roles and hear back from them all at different times. It’s not like you were still job hunting, or had started the job hunt again months into a new role. The first few weeks are typically probationary anyway, where the company is deciding if you’re the right fit for them, and you should be deciding if the company is the right fit for you.
Post # 13
I accepted a job once and resigned very shortly after starting because another company I had interviewed with made me a significantly better offer. I work with the first company now sometimes in my current role and it’s never been awkward or an issue.
Things happen, and if the role pays $20k more and is a better opportunity career wise, you’d be nuts not to take it because you feel loyalty to your company of a few weeks.
It’s business, not a friendship and theres no reason to feel bad or disloyal for switching roles. Resigning is always a little sad/awkward, but they will replace you and keep doing business. In a few weeks/months after you leave no one will care or remember.
Post # 14
I get the loyalty aspect; I’ve felt that way before. But in the professional world you HAVE to look out for yourself.
Right now you haven’t been offered the job, so don’t stress too much. If that time comes, weigh the pros & cons.
Post # 15
choose what’s best for you. second chances won’t come too often in this working industry