(Closed) Just started planning and naturally I'm freaking out – where do I start???

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 5
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

where are you located? i’m sure someone could find you an affordable caterer. or, if you’re planning a casual backyard wedding, maybe you can do a couple main dishes (grilled meats, lasagna, meatballs, whatever), and have guests bring sides? that way, it’s not completely potluck, but you can cut costs that way.

other ways to cut costs:

  • DIY your flowers, or don’t do flowers at all. 
  • find a used dress, or buy something more casual.
  • DIY as much as possible. flowers, invitations, decorations, favors, cake.. or find people who can help.

Post # 6
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

I suggest googling a timeline or going to The Knot for a timeline. It will help you out. For the budget you can get some inspiration online as well for the amount you want to spend. I bet you could do your backyard wedding for every less than $5000. I am shooting for $5000 as well, as long as my parents pay for the catering I think it will work out.

Post # 7
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


Ok, well first off I wouldn’t ask anyone for money. If they offer, by all means accept, but asking is rude IMO. Set a budget.

After budget, sort out your venue. You want to have a backyard wedding, but make sure you’re thinking about rain plans as well- do your parents have a large shed or covered area? If not, you may need to hire a marquee/tent, and they can be expensive.

Then I’d sort out the catering. $10 pp is a crazy good price. The cheapest I found was $25pp (with lots of variety, plates, cutlery and napkins) and I jumped on that, because there was no way I could find a better deal. I would seriously consider shelling out for the $10pp if it’s possible, to save yourself the hassle of cooking, buying the food, making sure it’s ready on time ect. If you can’t afford it, I’d opt for an after dinner or lunch reception, where you can provide finger foods and cake (I did that for our e-party, and it worked out fine, but we did do a lot of cooking/preparing food the 2 days before and a little during the party).

After that, organise the celebrant and photographer, and anyone else you need (hair, make up, dj ect).

We’re having a DIY wedding, we only hired the venue, caterers, photog and celebrant. Maybe a hair stylist too.

Then sort out attire. You’ll need around 4 months for your dress to come in if you order it fron a salon (unless you buy a sample).

Good luck.

Post # 9
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Don’t freak out, you have plenty of time and trust me it will all come together.  I have about 40 days left and started planning in March of this year, so a total of 8 months.  Be sure to get a wedding planner book, so you can keep all your things and reciepts organized and stay on budget.


I took some of the stress of myself because I chose a venue that will do it all, they have deocrations so all I had to do was buy a few table runners and some candles which cost me $70 bucks.  They take care of all the food and drinks and will decorate for me as long as I give them my items.  We are also doiing a dessert bar with a small wedding cake and the bakery is taking care of setting all of that up. 

What I suggest doing first is selecting your date and booking your venue and then bookig your photographer and your DJ.  If you don’t belong to a church and want a church wedding find a church.  ( I belong to a church but to keep it easy on my guest,  we are getting married at the same venue where our reception will be held)

The Dress, the menu, the decorations, the tux and flowers will all in fall in place.



Post # 12
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@maribee:  Check out this book!  It’s been very helpful!  

Post # 13
167 posts
Blushing bee

@maribee:  I’m in New Albany! Right across the bridge from Louisville. I am kind of in the same boat, shooting to get married next October. I think $10pp is an awesome price! I haven’t found anything less than $22 pp after fees ect.. I would agree to find venue first then caterer. I’ve been trying to find venues where I can bring in whatever caterer I want and supply the alcohol. We have a friend that owns a bar and we’re going to try to order through him. Or buy from outlets/SAMs ect.. There are quite a few pins on pinterest that breakdown how much alcohol is needed for a reception based on the # of guests.

Also tables and chairs can be expensive to rent but if you get to use the backyard for free it would definitely be worth it. 

Photographers- you want a good one because pics, IMO, is one of the most important things to budget for. However, if you search, ask around, check your local board, fb ect. You’ll be able to find a good one no matter what your budget.

I checked my local board on here and got a lot of feedback on caterers, venues, photographers ect in my area… Good luck! 

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