Post # 1
What is worse, the lies we tell ourselves or the lies we choose to believe ?
It’s been a couple weeks since I walked out on a 3.5 yr relationship, maybe I shouldn’t be on the boards at all since I’m not waiting, let alone dating yet lol but some how reading the post, following the stories has been helping me to see myself my more clearly and better yet to set some new ground rules when Mr. Next comes along 🙂
I’m still in the stages of thinking back as to why I choose to believe the lies that were right in front of me. How I got so blind sided and wondering when I stopped listening to my head and let my heart lead me. I knew better than to let that happen !
On the flip side, no time for tears since leaving 🙂 as I’ve been way too busy shopping for all new clothes, some hot new shoes, and a bunch of smashing new earring to show off with my new do !! Chopped all my hair off, new color, hi lights and got a fresh new look going on !!!!!!!
Between the new look and leaving, I somehow feel empowered that I took a hold of “my” life before it was too late a second time. And I just want to thank those ladies again who were kind enough to spell out the truth for me when I joined the board in desperation to help me see the light of the truth !!!
Cheers ! 🙂 (note – somehow I posted this in another area that was totally unrelated lol so I decided to repost it so that those who helped me thru my difficutt time were updated and thanked )
Post # 3
Kudos to you you! Best of luck. 🙂
Post # 4
I know I definitely had that feeling after a similar experience. Good for you for taking steps so that you feel wonderful about yourself! Just a simple haircut can make such a difference when you’re getting back on your feet.
I followed all of your posts regarding the situation, and I have to say that you have been an inspiration for a lot of women on this board who have suffered from similar heartaches.
It takes such courage to say enough is enough!
Post # 5
Good for you!!! I too followed your other post about leaving him.
We live our lives not only by what makes sense in our heads, but also what our hearts tell us, and you’re at no fault for doing so. It makes you human and loving!! I do agree, it’s tough to balance making (relationship) decisions when it comes to both heart and head!
P.S. You should definitely still be on the boards!
Post # 6
Good for you!! I think its great you are doing some things for yourself and feeling empowered.
Post # 7
“I’m still in the stages of thinking back as to why I choose to believe the lies that were right in front of me.”
I think we’ve all been through that. I reread an old journal recently and realized that I was miserable at six months into a relationship that lasted nearly five-and-a-half years. I think it’s awesome that there’s been no tears since you ended it. That means that you made the right decision. And I also think it’s wonderful that you recognize what was not right with your relationship (even if you do feel like kicking yourself for putting up with it for so long). If you can see it now, then you’re learning from it.
Congratulations? That doesn’t sound right, but I can’t think of any other way to say it. I know we’ve never met, but I’m kind of proud of you.